On BODY IMAGE (Love Your Body Event + why I got a health coach)

I’ve been wanting to talk about this one for a WHILE now.

I never knew when the right time, or when the situation would strike to inspire. Or, encourage me to chat about it. 

Our upcoming Almost 30 Podcast event, Love Your Body with Kelly LeVeque, Danika Brysha, Danielle Pascente, and Chelsea Leifken, inspired me to talk about Body Image and body love. 

First, on the event because I CAN'T WAIT. 

June 24th from 3 - 7 PM in Beverly Hills at this GORGEOUS SPACE. We'll do a moving meditation together, we'll eat light bites, get TONS of goodies from so many good brands, and then have the speaking sessions from our amazing speakers talking about their body journey. If you haven't listened, listen to our Almost 30 Podcast episodes with all of those babes. They are so REAL, raw, honest, fun and have SO MUCH depth.

So, come! Register here and bring a friend :).

All donations go to two badass charities, Awaken Arts and The Movement Foundation. 

 

So, back to body image, and the bodies we all LOVE to hate.

I feel like there's so much info out there about how to look and feel your best. 

It's like, 'I drank lemon water in the morning for a month and feel GREAT. Here are the top 10 benefits to drinking lemon water in the morning'. 

We want to remember the days that we looked and felt our prettiest, and fittest.

There are SO MANY articles about how to be your thin, pretty, have clear skin, have good hair...

Take this vitamin, drink this tea, do this workout, use this face cream. Blah blah blah. But there aren't always articles or instructions about getting over bad body conversations.

I mean, hi.

Guilty!

I write about shit you can do to make you feel better about how you look.

Everything that I do share - I believe in, and do myself. But, there's a piece missing there. 


My thought to write this was sparked by a conversation with a friend on her shag carpet in West Hollywood. 

Oh, and by every consideration, my girlfriend is TINY.

A literal 100 pounds, yoga lover/instructor, super in shape and an actual model. She's the girl that makes the girls at the front desk at yoga 

So, I was pretty surprised to hear when she started talking to me about her issues around food, and eating and her body.

She went through a list of what her body SHOULD look like, why wasn't that way (her bad habits, she's lazy...all things that weren't true) and then went to Instagram to show me the girl she believes she SHOULD look like.

I felt like I was in the twilight zone.

This was the person who I  knew that other girls were looking at saying, why can't I look like HER?

Even the "HER" has another girl who they think they should look like.

It's a cycle that never ends. Every girl, has another girl on fucking instagram they think they should look like. Or someone they should talk like, take pictures like, dress like....

Pretty fucking sad right?

Keeping in mind - this person I'm hearing is SO much smaller than me. Someone by standard definitions has what we'd consider the perfect body.

Long, lean, and toned. 

But having this conversation with someone where we had such similar, destructive thoughts was just a reminder about how hard we are ALL hard on ourselves. I felt myself talking shit about myself and my body, too. 

On that night were two healthy, able bodied girls complaining about everything they DIDN'T have going for them. 

Pretty sad huh?

At the end of the conversation I was sick of hearing myself.  Feeling like some of what I had said was truly how I felt, and that some of it wasn’t really how I felt.

I felt like I had betrayed myself a little bit and talked so poorly about myself. Deep in my core, I know that I love myself more than that. 

When I really think about it, I get frustrated that with all of the GOOD in my life I can sit there and have a negative conversation with myself about how much I eat, and how much I think I should eat. How I think I should look.

Sometimes because I do have those thoughts, I feel like I attract those conversations. Where it centers around not feeling good ENOUGH about my body and the way that I look.

Insecure days come in different forms and the experiences accompanied with them vary from person to person.

Okay, so I’m not at a weight I feel my best at, or most comfortable at. But I am healthy, I’m working out, I have friends, I have a job I love, passions I love, friends I love….so when I become consumed with that one negative conversation, it negates those other amazing things completely.

Why does one bad thought overtake all the other good?

Yes there have been times where it’s WAY less good on that scale, and the list of good things may seem shorter, but that’s when you concentrate more intensely on the good.

During these insecure days, It’s important to differentiate that negative voice in your head from your truest self.

When I was talking out loud at my friends, I felt like I was betraying myself because I was letting my negative voice overtake the one that was my true self. The one that's always there for you, man. Your true voice, or authentic self is the greatest part of you. It’s at your very core. It's that strength and light that movies talk about and charities speak to. When there's more noise, it's harder to hear the voice deep in your core.

To help combat my incessant conversation about my weight, and body, I've enlisted a health coach, who I’ve been working with for the past month.

Jessica Suchan, gorgeous angel and friend, has been serious game changing in helping me understand my thought patterns related to food and body image, and rethink about how I approach and speak to myself. Also about the decisions I make and WHY I made them. I'll have a full post on that and some of the negative patterns around food/self talk that we all most likely do to share.

Having a coach has helped me realize:

  • Overall, I am doing more good than harm to my body. I workout, I sleep, I'm vegan and eat well overall...I prioritize my health and although I'm not super happy with how things go most of the time body wise, I am doing SO MUCH right. Thinking of the little things, like drinking water, having tea after dinner, going on a walk at work, is critical to finding more and more ways to do better by yourself.
  • Little things MATTER. I've never realized how much little things matter. Like, little snacks, 200 calories here, or 200 there, REALLY add up. Every bite, lick or taste, your body takes in and if you're not counting it in as your calories you need to be.
  • Encouraging yourself works wonders over discouraging. I felt like for so long I would get so frustrated I didn't know how else to approach myself than to talk negatively to myself. But it turns out that the tiny wins, and cheering myself on does me way better than being my own bully.
  • Having someone that's unbiased and non-judgmental is KEY. Jessica listens and truly gives such unbiased advice, it's been so nice to speak openly about how I am feeling and what is going on. Your family and friends can do that, but by removing that 'knowing' of you, you get so much more accomplished.
  • Start small, and take little steps. It makes such a difference.
  • It's not going to be easy and there isn't an end point. Seriously with your body and health, as long as your alive, it'll be a conversation. 

Again it's part of the journey, and part of the LONG GAME. Making better decisions for the rest of your life, not just part of a diet. 

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Okay, enough about you. I wanna hear from you guys?

Do you find yourself trapped in negative self talk about your body? What about social media? What do we think.

What do you do to feel better?

Excited to hear your thoughts :)

Have the best week, and if you're coming to the event this weekend, I can't WAIT to SEE YOU.

xoxo

Krista 

Joshua Tree with Airbnb: aka my DREAM

This post is sponsored by Airbnb but all opinions are always my own. 

Oh man.

If I could tell you one of my dreams, it would be to work with Airbnb.

Back in the day, before I shared the blog with anyone really, I wrote a post called: True Life: I tried Airbnb. The post is really embarrassing and seriously shouldn't be seen or read by the world, but I was a babyyyyy back then (baby blogger that is). 

This was two years ago, when Airbnb was new on the scene and people were still baffled at the idea of 'staying at a strangers house'. 

But, I was into  it from the get-go.

Airbnb is more than just an overnight stay. It's not a hotel, it's not an in and out experience with a coffee maker in your room, ironing board and wrapped up soap (well it could be I guess but...ya know). It's not sterile or corporate. 

I know I'm being dramatic but it's true, if you know me you know I love speaking to Uber and Lyft drivers, learning from new people and experiencing new things. Whenever I book with Airbnb, I know that it's going to be part of the experience of immersing myself in the culture.

Part of the joy of traveling is meeting new people, experiencing the community, and really being 'in' it. 

It's like when you go somewhere and just stay at the resort the whole time. You're not REALLY doing it.

Places I've done airbnb:

Santa Fe, New Mexico

Albaquerque, New Mexico

San Francisco, California

Marrakech, Morocco

Palm Springs, California

Palma De Majorca, Spain

London, England

Sonoma County, California

Toronto, Canada

Cape Town, South Africa

Santa Barbara, California

Ojai, California

Newport, Rhode Island

New York City, New York

...just off the top of my head :).

So, I've have an amazing sense of what you get when you do airbnb, over a regular hotel. 

There's something really amazing and special about being in someones home. Especially that of a stranger. You're reminded that, just like you, people can be trusted, and not everyone is all that bad (if at all).

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So when airbnb asked me to write about one of their experiences, I was over DA MOON. My dream brand (one that represents, travel, adventure, and community) working with Hundred to share something exciting with you, my friends. 

Airbnb experiences are excursions or other activities designed and led by local hosts.  In my case it was Rian, a host for the 'Desert Wanderer' experience over 3 days in Joshua Tree. These hosts like Rian give guests unique access into places and communities in their city. In this case, Rian brought us to places I would have never gone to without her guidance. 

With airbnb experiences, these hosts can offer both immersions and one day experiences. Immersions happen over multiple days and are offered as is—their schedules can’t be modified. One day experiences can last just a couple of hours. All experiences can range from workshops to long treks, and are available for various skill levels and interests.


The itinerary: 

Friday: Horseback riding and mimosas 

On Friday, the group met in the Hollywood hills to embark on a 1 hour journey on horseback to see LA from a different view and set the tone for the weekend. After the ride, we had a little mountaintop mimosa to kick off the weekend in style. 

Saturday: Justin and I packed up and headed from Los Angeles to Joshua Tree. The trip is super quick and easy, and we made it in under 2 hours. We left around 10:00 AM, just to be sure that we didn't hit any traffic leaving the city. Obviously packed the goodness from Erewhon (raw vegan burrito wrap, Moon Juice Crackers, and La Croix). 

When we arrived in Joshua Tree, the address for our first activity was at the Integration. 

How I didn't know about this, I DON'T KNOW, because it's SO me. 

Integration is a rad, earthy, spiritual and cool sound bath experience that Justin and I both LOVED. Justin loves a good chill session, so anything we do where we are laying down, he's about it. I LOVED just relaxing, getting  out of the sun, and being in such a beautiful space. It's all wooden, has the perfect acoustics, and has a really rich history that they told us all about before we started the sound bath.

What's a sound bath:

"This is an unforgettable sound experience for those who seek deep relaxation, rejuvenation, and introspection. All Sound Baths are 60-minute sonic healing sessions that consist of 25 minutes of crystal bowls played live and the balance of the hour to integrate the sound and relax in the sound chamber to recorded music.

You will be resting comfortably in the deeply resonant, multi-wave sound chamber while a sequence of quartz crystal singing bowls are played, each one keyed to the energy centers or chakras of the body, where sound is nutrition for the nervous system. The results are waves of peace, heightened awareness, and relaxation of the mind and body."

via Integration

Pretty rad, right?

After that, we did another activity I would have never known unless it were for Rian, our guide. Even from searching online and looking at my usual spots for good recommendations, nothing said anything about Integration or this spot.  

This rad place was the Noah Purifoy Outdoor Sculpture Garden. Noah Purifoy is an artist who died a few years back, who made super interesting pieces out of trash he found in the area.

Dinner was perfect and super western vibes at Pappy + Harriets, a local favorite that surprisingly had way more vegan options that I would have thought for a BBQ joint. I got the vegan chili with avocado, green salad and enjoyed that with chips and guacamole (OBVIOUSLY). At the end of the night we went back to Joshua Tree acres for stargazing.

It was super exciting that, at Joshua Tree Acres, another Airbnb experience was happening that we joined in on. It was with Martin, who owns these INSANE telescopes that allow you to see the surface of the moon, galaxies and stars. We actually got to use our phones to take pictures of the moon.

I know this seems out there, lol, so bare with me. But we're in the desert, using our iPhones and a $70,000 telescope to take pictures of the moon and stars. 

So rad, right?

It's nice to be in a place where we can see the clear sky, stars and sleep in the quiet night. Although L.A. is  more quiet than NYC :) it still can be noisy and hectic at times. 

What's included:

Ticket to live music and sound bath at the Integratron 

Transportation to, from, and within Joshua Tree and the hi-desert

1 night accommodation in Joshua Tree at Joshua Tree Acres

Sunday: As a finale, we spent the desert morning enjoying the best of the best. With turmeric lattes, food, nature, and a visit to a hippie commune.

YUP! Hippie commune, a community in the desert where they basically live off the land, and live amongst themselves in the desert. 

First though, in the morning, we had the BEST breakfast La Copine. For real though this is a GEM. Again, would have never known about it or found it without Rian. The line to get a table here is gnarly, so if you go, go early or prepare to wait.

848 Old Woman Springs Road, Yucca Valley, CA

HOURS: Thursday - Sunday 9:00 AM - 3:00 PM

People actually arrive before they open to write their names down on a list so they have a seat as soon as they open their doors. For food, I got the sweet potato hash and turmeric latte (actually two of them) and it gave me LIFE. 

Another good spot for coffee in Joshua Tree is Joshua Tree Coffee Co.

With my full belly, we headed out to Joshua Tree National Park. So much to see, and you can spend as much or as little time in the park as you want, really. We decided to do the light hike, and take it easy just to walk around. 

I like this guide for the best hikes in Joshua Tree. 

Hours: 8:00 AM - 5:00 PM 7 days a week

6554 Park Blvd.
Joshua Tree, CA 92252

After roaming the park for a little with our crew, I was BEAT, and ready to retreat back to my little bungalow on the beach.


Huge thanks to Airbnb for this, and for Rian for taking us to the best spots in Joshua Tree, this trip was AMAZING and I loved every second of it. Highly recommend for any desert adventure :). 

Questions, ask me!

xoxo

Krista 

HOT PANTS that make you happy (with Zara)

Feeling FINE in my HOT PANTS guys.

Seriously into the bright colored trousers, joggers, bell bottoms...it's nice that there's variety now (instead of just the skinny leg).

Whenever I wear these, I get SO many compliments, and I think it's because people just want to smile when they see the super bright yellow :) there's just something about it.

I love the fit, how comfortable they are, and the fact that I got them for under $40 from Zara (aka my SPOT lately).

A lot of babes were asking on Instagram, so I've linked this look below, as well as some hot pant options for ya this summer.

Plus, this low back ruffle stripe stop? I mean, how unique? It's cool because in the front it's super covered up with a small turtle neck vibe, then you turn around and BAM - it's all S&M with the criss-cross exposed back.

So fly, right?

Happy Thursday, my loves. 

xoxo


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