A little (EASY) way to make your life (and others lives) a LOT brighter

Oh guys! So glad you're here, and excited about this post.

I read something the other da that I just LOVEDDD an had to share with you.

(& if you'd like, links to this outfit below)

A post from Jedidiah Jenkins

Who, is truly one of my favorites when I found him from Rich Roll

It's a post about complimenting STRANGERS

Yes, strangers.

Jedidiah is a MUST FOLLOW on Instagram. He is a beautiful amazing wonderful wordsmith, and he writes these LONG captions, that are so so stunningly put, it takes my breath away. Each one feels like my thoughts, just so much more beautifully.

They are poignant, thoughtful and true.

This one was one of my recent favorites, with such a beautiful message, it struck me to share.

(I know it's long, but it's SO GOOD! Read read it!)


When I see something good in someone, I tell them. Straight away. Like a reflex. Even if I don’t know them at all. This can often be mistaken for flirting, but maybe it is. I love flirting. But I’ve seen the effects of this and I’ve felt its effects on me. I am always telling waitresses how beautiful their hair is or how charming they are or bartenders how masterful they are with the flip of a bottle.

I do this because I have found that a compliment from a stranger can reshape my whole day. If a random kid says he likes my jacket as I walk by, I feel like a fashion genius. If my buddy says it, I’m glad for sure, but not as charged and giddy.

There is something about speaking lovely words to people. Our nervous minds are always trying to see themselves, to fish out the mystery of our own identity. Words have all the power. Have you noticed when someone is saying ‘this was my first impression of you..’ you perk up with wild interest? We want to meet ourselves.

In a moment of anger, an emotional pronouncement over someone can poison them for years. ‘You are a disappointment.’ ‘You are lazy.’ Saying what someone ‘is’ is like witchcraft.

For this reason, I tell people what is lovely, so that it becomes more of them. If a talkative friend stops and listens to me, I pause and say ‘you’re such a good listener.’ She might lean back and put her hand on her chest and say ‘I am?’ And I’ll say ‘yes, thank you.’ I guarantee she’ll be a better listener from that day on.

Words have power, to bless or to curse. That’s why I love reading them, writing them in cafés, hearing and saying them. They shape the world. What is a thought but words or feelings looking for them?
— @jedidiahjenkins

I can recall times when a stranger has complimented me, or me them, and it breaks down a barrier between us, lets the other one in and feels so good.

It's not being vain or concentrated on looks all the time. It's not that we only like how someone wears a shirt or their clothes, but it's the act of being kind and NOTICING another, letting them put their wall down to be appreciated out of random that is just so lovely.

It's true, when you compliment someone you know, although you mean it, the nicety seems less exciting. It's the usual greeting from a girl. The ice breaker to meet new people, "I like your shirt". 

LOL. 

But for a stranger, it warms them and creates a reminder that we are all HERE and this slowly brings the human element back into it. 

In a life lived through our phones, in a digital world with our heads down when walking the streets. A compliment is a kind way of bringing both parties back to 'reality'. Breaking ice, and the barrier between strangers. 

So, this week, my thing, is to SAY what I am thinking when I notice something I like. To  put that positive energy out there, and when I'm thinking something lovely about someone, to just say it.

Make their day, just by expressing what I'm thinking.

Truly, a beautiful concept.

I love it. 

Thoughts? Feelings? A good add to the week, no?

I love ya, 

xoxox

Krista