Talking about being HAPPY + my favorite faux leather jacket EVER

Why is it hard to talk about life when it's good?

Is that just me?

I was meeting with my friend recently and she mentioned (in a loving way), that I never seem to talk about what's going on in my life.

That when I'm with people I always shift the focus with questions about them and what they are doing.

That I don't often share anything about The Hundred Blog, Almost 30 Podcast, or my job (that I love). 

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I just never really talk about it. I don't know how to? What do you say when everything is just, really good?

Whenever I meet a stranger, and I'm introduced as a blogger, or podcaster...I don't have much to say beyond the basics. 

It pains me to think of being perceived as self-obsessed or self-involved. 

(I think sometimes think that as a blogger you are obsessed with yourself. That you LOVE taking photos of yourself and use the blog as a vehicle to share all of your glamour shots. HA. I would maybe say that taking photos is my least favorite part. I LOVE creating a vibe in an image and I love fashion, but getting ready and zooming in on 900 images of me every week, I'M GOOD).

It feels weird telling someone brand partnerships I have upcoming, or podcast numbers. Even with my job, I have nothing to say beyond, I love it, and it's good.  It's moving in the right direction, and I have wins everyday. 

But for some reason it's hard for me to share it! Why is that?

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Why is it so hard to talk about all of the good things in life, the successes and the wins?

It feels a bit like bragging, I guess? Or that you're making someone else feel bad because you're talking about the ways in which you shine.

There is a part of this where, yes, it's a good thing to be humble. I LOVE when I discover parts of others that are bragworthy but they haven't chosen to share. I always remembered that with my dad, I never figured out how traveled he was, and well read he was until I got older and I figured it out on my own, vs him telling me. He's been to over 90 countries in the world, but I never knew until I asked.

But where does humility become something where you're unable to share things you love with those you love?

I feel like lately, life has been going so well, that I don't have as much to say. Even on the blog!

Yes, I have my days, weeks, whatever, that SUCK. I got in a 3 car accident on the highway recently, which was pretty scary, and my hormone health hasn't been the best.  But, overall, I am happy, healthy, have enough food and money to support myself, and am doing things I love. I also am surrounded by people that I love. 

So, when people ask how I am, it's 'good!' and a switch to conversation about what's going  on with them, what's new and exciting. Honestly, I am more interested in what my friends and strangers are doing. I guess, when I'm in my own head, ALL DAY EVERYDAY, it seems less exciting to talk about the latest post or sponsor for Almost 30 Podcast.

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But when I think about it, having Almost 30 and the interviews I share on Hundred, are an extension of things that I am interested in, and believe in, AND involve others. The interviews on both Hundred and Almost 30 Podcast with AMAZING, qualified, interesting, smart people, I can share those.

But I'd love to work on finding a way to share and be open about positivity and good in my life. Acknowledging it, being grateful, and truthful about life, is essentially keeping it 100. Ya know?

I feel like there is so MUCH TO SAY when things are bad.

Your boss was mean to you, your friend betrayed you, everything went wrong, and there's LOT'S to discuss. Small talk, is often like that. It's musings and observations about things that suck.

The weather! Never good enough, am I right?

Even in California, talking about the weeks of rain, was a popular topic. But we NEEDED that rain, and it's a natural thing.

But, it was a conversation topic. Because it's negative.

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I'm just having a hard time, not feeling annoying, talking about all the good in my life.

Again, my life is by no means perfect, but I want to share more. Especially as I've deepened my gratitude practice (by writing down in a gratitude journal daily, and each morning saying thank you, the second I wake up) you notice more good. I swear.

How I plan to do better with sharing the wins:

  • Acknowledge it: This means that personally, when something good happens, when I'm feeling this good, taking a second to actually notice it. Take a breath, put my hand over your heart and think, wow, I am lucky that life is this good. 
  • Start small: Share things with those closest to me, and maybe even preface it with a joke. 'Life is good, I know it's annoying but I feel genuinely happy'. By the disarming, it gives me the space to actually be happy
  • Focus on the good, not the bad: When I find yourself in a conversation where I am focusing on the negative with someone, I am going to try to shift it, ever so slightly. Its' good for you, and it's good for them. 
  • Understand it's fleeting: The only constant is change, baby, which means that just because it's good now, doesn't mean it can't get better or sadly, worse, HA.

Any tips for me? How do you guys share in your success and the good in your life so that people can support you and be a part of it? 


What I'm wearing in this post:

DIE FOR THIS Floral Jacket by Black Denim NYC, fam. I mean how fucking amazing? The detail, the fit is everything and I get so many compliments on it. It's so good to mix the feminine with the masculine, and I am such a fan of faux leather baby.

High-Waisted Black Stretch Jeans from Nordstrom (these are like SPANX I SWEAR) 

Lace-Up Flats from Chinese Laundry

Free People Cream Blouse (on sale!) I wear this all the time. It's the perfect flattering basic.

Ray Ban Mirrored Sunglasses

Tarte BB Cream in Medium

Buxom Full on Liquid Lipstick


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Always thanks for being here, supporting Hundred Blog and being my friends!

Have the best Thursday, (almost there!) 

xoxo

Krista

Powering down: Currently, OVERWHELMED (social media observations)

Hey guys!

Deepness today! Really writing to you as a little journal of my thoughts. Mondays do that to ya, ya know? 

Also how was your weekend? Did you do anything fun?

Mine was lovely, but nothing too special - except this. So, we'll get right into it.

The other day I was in SoulCycle (yah basic I know)...but one of the riders in the front, HAD HER PHONE IN CLASS.

BIG NO NO Y'ALL. RESPECT THE SPACE! NO PHONE ZONE!

So this girl gets out of class, she's like 15 years old, and is RIGHT BACK ON HER PHONE.

Fast forward, this girl's mom is talking to my friend Lindsey, the instructor, and tells us that the girl is in THERAPY FOR BEING ON HER PHONE SO MUCH.

Kids today, are in therapy for the amount they are addicted to their phones.

No hating on therapy, the mom, or the kid even. Just eye opening that social media/phones are becoming that much a part of kids lives that they need to go to therapy to help remedy an issue it's caused.

Scary, right? But where's the line? How much of this is related to social media and our generation (and younger ones) today?

*how old do I sound saying younger ones? BTW.

But to my post, which is related.

Does anyone else feel like social media is like creeping up and SUFFOCATING them lately? I know I'm being dramatic, but I feel like no matter how much time I spend, I'm never doing enough.

There's Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, Snapchat (@hundredblog can I write about social media and then share my handle? DGAF)...and I don't even do Tumblr, or YouTube or anything with video yet. But it's always like, I always have SOMETHING more I could be doing. I should snap, I should insta, I should spend more time on this or more time on that. 

& I have a BLOG (SURPRISE Y'ALL!) - so it's like, my bread and butter is being on social media all the time. 

Sometimes it just feels like I'm never doing enough. Not enough liking, not enough pinning, not enough tweeting...and I think I spend 3+ hours on social daily. My phone, is like my best friend/sidekick. I also cracked the screen this weekend, which was sweet.

(Wait remember Sidekick phones? LOL)

Whenever I'm not paying attention to Justin, he goes 'digital detox (with a finger wag) and references a post I wrote in May 2015 about 'taking a digital detox'. LOL that's not ANNOYING AT ALL.

But there's truth to it!

(Hopefully he's not reading this to see I said that!)


Lately I've been noticing the effect social media has on me. I go into a room, I feel confident about myself, who I am, but I'm constantly wondering if I could be documenting this for everyone else to see, to keep up and to stay relevant.  

When I was in Vietnam, I spent a portion of the trip thinking or seeing things with my 'social media' eye, and viewing things as either:

A good Instagram.

A funny snap.

A photo opportunity for a blog post.

It's almost like, I'm not SEEING things in the flesh sometimes when I know I should post on social. But seeing them as the snap/insta/post living already on the internet.

In that situation, I'm less present because I am living in the mode of social media, sharing, rather than experiencing. 


Shop the look:

Topshop Western Denim Jacket: Fits just right, a little big and baggy but COMFORTABLE!

Topshop Blush Palm Print Oversized Button Down: Super silky and comfortable, I wear this thing ALL THE TIME.

Topshop High-Waisted Denim Jean Shorts: These run SO SMALL. I mean, really small. I think my butt was eating my shorts, but, I went back and went a size up and was good. Doesn't make you feel nice but they are super cute.


I am starting to get into Pinterest (I think it's going to be huge in 2016) and keep up on Facebook with my page, my Instagram needs a MAJAH overhaul so my feed looks polished, and this is a small portion of the social commenting/supporting I want to do with other bloggers I love.  

Let me definitely get it straight that I'm not complaining about what I do, or blogging, or sharing things with you, my readers. I'm obsessed with seeing what you're up to and all the amazing things you're doing/wearing. I mean, you guys, rule and are my life inspiration, DUH. 

I do love to write, and I started The Hundred Blog to connect with more people, and share my life with people I know and people I want to know more about.

But it just sometimes, social media feels a bit out of hand, no? What's next and what do I need to spend time using so that I am connected/in the loop/relevant? 

I did a little research and loved this Huffington Post article, about how to deal with Social Media Overwhelm by:

  • Creating boundaries around your time on social media
  • Use scheduling tools to use your time productively
  • Use targeted searches to find the people and content you want
  • Take breaks from social media

 

But I want to hear your thoughts, and sort of start the conversation about this.

What do you think?

Do you feel a bit overwhelmed with social media and the need to stay relevant and curate your life?

Do you guys have any strategies that you use to solve or remedy this? 

What's next? Do you see us going in a specific direction social media wise?

Cannot wait to read.

xoxo

Krista

Inspired Ramblings: Loop thoughts

I've been having the same conversations with very different people (at very different stages in their lives) for the past few months now. All with the same undertone, idea and feeling, that of restlessness. 

Y'all know where this is going! *DEEP CHATS*

Since I started my meditation practice a few years ago, I wouldn't consider myself someone that has loop nagging thoughts. Don't get me wrong I've had my share of #sundayscaries, where you're unable to essentially escape yourself. 

I mean, for quite some time, it was like a constant anxiety that would keep me up and I'd be sleeping for like 3 hours a night. 

Thoughts that keep you living in a type of 'virtual reality'. Where you're more in your head then where you actually are. 

I was really productive then lol. UP AND AT 'EM texting people at like 5:00 AM like a psycho. 

But, as I've said, in a serious way, meditation helps to calm anxiety, and that incessant feeling of being out of control of a situation. It's honestly changed my life. Not to talk about that too much, because you can read about my meditation journey here

I haven't had one of those 'cyclical thoughts' spells in so long. You know, those that are just the same thoughts with a question mark at the end every time. No actual solution is suggested, or you suggest too many solutions. You have multiple paths that you explore (again, just in your head) each possible destination further perpetuating your anxiety. 

I know so many people who think like this and have these anxious thoughts. I would say, about, every one of my friends thinks like this but 5.

Just thinking off the top of my head, LOL. 

These loop thoughts could be regarding your career and what you're doing in life right now. Do you continue the path you're on because it's easy, because it's safe, or because you're comfortable?

Or, do you take the leap and go outside of your comfort zone to make a step towards something that could potentially fulfill you more than your current choice?

(Money of course comes into play in various places here). 

It could be thoughts related to who you're dating. Do you stay with someone you know isn't your 'person' because it's comfortable and it's too much effort to break up?. The holidays are coming and you can't imagine doing it without them so you hang on until you think it could be easier. 

(J not talking about you boo).

For me it's been one of those times where I have been overcome with loop thoughts related to my career and allocation of time, that have slowly crept into my chill time and even to my sleep. (My nightmares are GNARLY. This is so fucked up, but the other night I was swimming in a pool of dead babies. NO JOKE. NOT OKAY).

This anxiety comes in waves, it's completely natural and attributed to a pivotal time in our lives. Especially in our twenties when life path choices are varied and available. 

For me it's the struggle of how much time I spend doing work, or at my 9-5, with the unknown belief of how valuable what I'm doing to the world is. If I was to really think about it, is what we do in our jobs benefiting ourselves and the people around us? Or just perpetuating consumerism, and bullshit?

(I couldn't find another word there, HA).

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy in my work, but if you REALLY think about it, does what I do matter?

That's what I'm looping.

I think it's the struggle between all of the choices our generation has. With the increase in social media, we're now aware of the life paths of people we know personally and those we don't. We have more choices (and pictures of how amazing each choice is) than ever before. There are jobs and careers that never existed five years ago. Like being a blogger, or social media expert, for example. 

Nowadays, you see more people boldly saying 'fuck it corporate America', and living in a random country, volunteering and finding themselves immersed in things unfamiliar. 

But, there's also those people going full fledged corporate and climbing their way to the top via the daily grind. A lifestyle that provides a baseline of stability and support that will last you until you're ready for retirement. 

These days you can compare and contrast your current situation with everyone else so quickly. A little bit of this job, a little bit of that career - which may seem interesting to you and could be something that would make you fulfilled. But for how long? As we evolve and age, our interests change, as well as what we want out of a 9-5. Now it could be more benefits or less hours in the office. Possibly for some, it's start-up life with no benefits, scooters in the office and dinners served free past 7 PM.

I, like many, have slowly made moves in various of areas of my life to constantly improve my awareness, and situation in both my career and personal life. As I explore more areas of interest and educate myself in places that I didn't have knowledge in before (such as climate change - swear to God) I just can't help but feel like there has to be a middle ground to finding something to do in your life, that helps more than just increase the bottom line at a company. Something that helps more than your bank account, but you and those around you. 

Something you wouldn't have loop thoughts doing. But feel at peace each day, and each night, tired from the day, fulfilled from both a bank account and holistic perspective. 

Is there a way to have it all, and when do you take the leap and make the move to go for it?

Will what you thought you want now change? Most situations, you think you were making the right decision before heading into it, for example in your career or love life. But then you changed, you grew and it maybe wasn't anymore. 

Then what?

That, I don't know. But I would seriously love to hear your thoughts. Do you have loop thoughts, or get restless? A bit of anxiety in the daily grind? Or if you do feel fulfilled, what's the secret? Do you have your days?

Feelin' this! Let me know. 

Love

Krista xx