7 Ways to Make Time for your Friends (when you're busy AF) with Bota Box

This is sponsored by Bota Box. All opinions are always my own. 

If you're like I am, you're scheduled is filled to the BRIM.

Work, hobbies, workouts, chores, travel...it can get a little crazy. It seems weird that sometimes I go weeks between seeing my friends, especially when they are the people I love the MOST.

If I'm trying to do things I love at all times, why am I not seeing my friends more often?

I know for me it can be difficult to do anything but work. If anyone has asked how I 'balance it all', I really don't. I work 7 days a week, all day, and I don't do much outside of it as of late. It's nice that what I love isn't work for me.

Podcasting, blogging, even my job (which lets me be creative and lets me travel a lot) doesn't feel like work.

CLICHE I KNOW, and it's not ALWAYS true. I mean ya girl works in excel sometimes and really wants to bash my head into my monitor but for the most part I love staying busy, and doing things at ALL TIMES. 

I've been finding myself working more and more, and most of my friends (other creatives in LA) work in the same field I do, which perpetuates our little working cycle. It's good, yes, but I realized I need to separate every once in a while and really put in the time with my friends that doesn't involve work. 

Especially with Lindsey (and Justin for sure) but with The Almost 30 Podcast, we are in CONSTANT communication. From 6 AM until 9 PM at night, we are talking through things. Podcasting is A LOT OF WORK. She and I are talking about the sound production, marketing, guest scheduling, invoicing, events...there's a lot to do and since it's growing, we always are trying to stay ahead. 

Basically, from a friendship perspective, Lindsey and I have been all business lately.  

So, in an effort to make more time for the people I love, I scheduled a wine night for she and I.

Lindsey is a wine girl (meaning when she's having a nice dinner or out she'll have a glass or two) so making sure to think of what she wants in our evening is important. When you want to make more time, to show your friends you love them, what more do you need than their favorite wine?

In full transparency, you hundred babes know that I drink sparingly. I'll have a glass or two (if it's good wine) but it's not something that's been a priority for me. So having Bota Box around is a new thing, but it was perfect to bring for our wine night.

I realized you guys are right about the wine night thing :). Having a good wine makes any occasion that much more special, and even though in this case were just hanging at her apartment it made it that much better.

Sipping *delicious* vino from nice glasses made it seem so much more like an event than if we were just drinking our usual La Croix. It was easy for me to take the box (and mini Bota's!) to her house, and storing them in the fridge was a piece of cake. 

What I planned for the night in was, first the food. I got a few different side dishes from Erewhon (my favorite grocery store ever in L.A.). Things like cauliflower, sweet potato, zucchini noodles, salad...a variety. For our drink, I had my two Bota Box's and mini Bota's, which are small to-go wine containers that are resealable and can go anywhere. It was easy! 

In order to make time for my friends (and do nights like these) it's key that it was scheduled, I planned the meal, and we had the nice touch of some Bota Box wine. 

Other ways to make time for your friends:

Call while you're driving or cleaning: Multi-tasking FTW!

Combine your to-do's with your hangouts: My favorite. Who doesn't love a Target run with your friends? 

Weave friend time into 'me' time: I am ALL ABOUT THIS. I will schedule chill yoga sessions, massages, anything with friends that's also spa-like. Use your recovery time with your besties. 

Use that lunch time: Seriously, I am all about leveraging a lunch hour. I schedule meetings with friends during lunch all the time. It breaks up the day, and gives you a little pep in your step since you're getting out of the office for a bit.

Do chores together: I'm serious this is weird, but I can have fun with my friends anywhere, so if they need to pick up, or run errands, I'm all about it!

Put it on the calendar, pay for it, and keep it low key: Just like I did with our Bota Box night in. I love that with Bota Box, it keeps it really casual, easy to transport, and made the night that much more fun. 

Let's talk about the fact that Bota Box, well...comes in a BOX. I know boxed wine gets a bad rap for no reason (maybe it's a flashback to college days when people bought boxed wine because you can get more than just with a bottle?)

But, Bota Boxed wine is actually better because:

  • It creates 85% less waste than traditional wine bottles 
  • It's 100% recycleable
  • You get more per package (4 bottles per Bota box) 
  • It's easy to travel with (you don't need to freak out that the glass will shatter)
  • The pouch is BPA free
  • It doesn't cost an arm and a leg (ALL ABOUT THIS ONE)
  • Plus there is the cute little Bota that you can throw in your bag for BYOB dinners or when you're out with your friends.

Bota cares about the environment and has engineered its package to be 100% recyclable. 2016 will be the eighth consecutive year that Bota Box has teamed up with the Arbor Day Foundation in support of reforestation. Through this partnership, Bota Box has helped the Foundation plant over 200,000 trees across the nation.When trying to save the environment, save money, and get a better value, this is the move. Plus in addition to their boxes, they have the CUTEST mini-botas!

Besides being a better value and better for the enivornment. I am LOVING the way both the Rose and the RedVolution taste (probably because they've won various awards for value and flavor). Bota has earned 30 Gold Medals in competitions since 2011, as well as 35 “Best Buy” ratings from Wine Enthusiast magazine. 

I had a full glass of each (as Lindsey and Stef our other friend did too) and we were raving about how good Bota Box tastes.

Since there's so much in the box, we had leftover and now it's a serious favorite at home. Justin has been LOVING having the wine on hand. It's easy to pour a glass for us and to hang together at the end of the day :).

Nothing makes him happier than when I drink a glass of wine, ha. 

The types of Bota Box wine that I really love are:

The RedVolution, which has flavor notes of black cherry, cooa and a HINT of spice. It's super a smooth, full-bodied wine that "culminates into a juicy, well-balanced finish."

Oh and the Rose? It's dry but not sweet. Super crisp (perfect for summer) it has aromas of raspberries and red rose and flavors of strawberry cake and grapefruit zest. We served this one well chilled.

Honestly I feel so lucky that I was able to incorporate Bota Box into our night in, it made the experience special for me and my #1 sistah, and is now the best part of our fridge at home. 

So excited for you to try Bota Box - all the flavors have won so many awards, and are listed as some of the best wines around. To find where you can buy Bota Box, check it out here. What's your favorite type of wine to drink my babes? 

Also get to scheduling some time with your friends, okay?

Love ya,


#ALMOST30 FRIENDSHIPS (how they evolve) + this groovy shoot in DTLA


This article from Man Repeller is, everything. "Adult Friendships Are Hard. But are we bad friends".

"Now, as an adult, I have a job and bills and responsibilities outside of the universe of best friendships.

Time really does fly, just like my parents said it would.

With each minute that gets eaten by adulthood, one more good intention does, too. It is remarkable how quickly it becomes too late to send that card; that text; that wedding, housewarming or baby present. It’s terrifying how easy it is not to call or show up to things that matter."


"Not all friendships that carry into adulthood are hard; proximity helps.

Similar schedules and circles makes it easier. Not all adult friendships are going to last, either. 

People are going to hurt us, and we are going to hurt people who we did not mean to hurt. (Somehow, I just learned this.)

But I’m positive that the friends who we are meant to stay with forever understand that. They are forgiving of our work-induced black-hole absences or when we bail because we need sleep.

They know that we do not suck. We are still very good friends, especially where it counts."

I mean, can I get an AMEN?

I feel like this every day. I ALWAYS SAY, I wish that I could get paid to be a best friend.

I wish that I could spend ALL DAY everyday texting my friends, sending them cards, calling them, supporting them, planning trips with them...WHATEVER.

But, as I've gotten older and have more on my plate (ahem da blog and the podcast for two along with my job, boyfriend...) I don't have as much time as I'd like to spend loving them. 


Time seriously DOES FLY.

HOW am I 29 years old? I don't hate it (#almost30nation) but it's really weird to think that I am no longer early twenties, and I'm not getting ANY younger. Time now, goes faster than ever.

(Most likely because there's so much to do). 

Also, the point about proximity and having similar interests.

I seriously feel that so hard.

For me, I see it as MULTI-TASKING when my friends want to hang, eat a healthy dinner, and workout. It's like okay we are going to do this anyway, so this is SO GOOD that we can do it together (since we're busy).

Having friends that aren't in your proximity, it feels like a win when you speak once a month. 

To think, that speaking to someone I love only once a month is something I consider GOOD is crazy. Remember back in college when you wouldn't leave your friends side? Let along not speak for weeks at a time. 

WTF is even happening during those weeks?

I do believe that now, it's the friends that let you DO YOUR THING, fully without guilt and without the "OMG did you DIE?" text that will stick around.

It's letting people do THEM (as adults) find their passion, cultivate their love (maybe in a relationship with someone else, or maybe with themselves) but loving them enough to...

sort of let them go.

But it's more like, you're letting them spread their wings, cultivate the relationship with themselves, build their life, and to ALWAYS be there for them even if you only speak once a month.

These are the ride or dies that have shaped you to become who you are today.

For me, I feel lucky that I get to travel to see my long distance friends most of the time. We do trips, bachelorettes, weddings, whatever. Making sure this time is QUALITY, is so KEY. 

Less phones, less social media, lots of affirmations and catching up. It SERIOUSLY fills me up. This love and high, tends to last. Maybe more than it did when I saw them everyday.

Right now in Cali though, I have cultivated a CREW.

Babes who are down with self-development, health, fitness, growth and FUN. We're aligned with interests and hobbies, and we're super supportive of one another's dreams.

Real adult friends, ya know?

Can you guys relate? Let me know? 

Also how GOOD was this article. Love me some manrepller.

Looking forward to chatting about this with you.