1 key to being happy + groovy casuals from ASOS

This post is written in partnership with ASOS but all opinions are my own

Babes!

Had an epiphany last night that I need to share with you. 

If you listened to the Almost 30 Podcast, last week we talked about body image, eating, dieting...all of the things with Danika Brysha (curve model and CEO of Model Meals). 

It was, everything.

One of the best.

We laughed, we got deep, we had fun...and hopefully inspired some people! SO much good feedback.

But, the one thing we talked about was eating. Something that I think about ALL THE TIME. I've talked to you about my meal deliveries (KleanLA - I love you) my Cabo prep and being vegan.  

I had the realization with food and eating, I find myself feeling my best, and feeling most confident when...

I simply do what I set out to do.

Period.

If I want to cut back on sugar, and set the intention, and actually DO IT. It feels SO GOOD. 

Or, when I say I want to pitch brands for the blog for an hour on Monday night, and DO IT. It also feels good. 

Whatever it is, when I actually DO what it is that I set out to do, I feel fucking amazing.

Same goes with starting a blog, or a podcast. I set out to do it, and took the little steps each day to actually make shit happen. Yes, I had doubts. Yes, there is always other things I could have been doing (trolling instagram or watching buzfeed cooking videos, for example) but I knew that if I wanted it, and did it, it would make me happy.

When do I feel bad? Whenever I know there's something that I want and my actions aren't aligned with what I want.

aka, I'm not doing what I set out to do. 

When you set a goal, and then follow through with that goal, you're sending a message to the universe that says your serious. The universe LOVES THAT SHIT and will send everything it can to support you. It may not happen right away, but overtime, it will happen.

Yes, for sure, life is messy and sometimes things get in the way, but the simple fact of setting a goal and doing it, sure can bring you joy.

It also can bring you closer to your goals. Period. 


In this post, clothing wise, I am wearing my favorite, ASOS from head to toe. I LOVE ASOS. For real, it's affordable, it's unique and I always find something there that looks way more expensive than it is. It's also refreshing, takes on street wear, casual wear, and even formal wear. I've gotten really nice dresses to wear to weddings, and some of my favorite casual weekend clothes all in the same trip. 

For this outfit, the TOP, is my go-to. It's comfortable, long, soft, unique and I wear it tucked into a denim skirt, or loose over jeans like this outfit here. The angled denim, are super trendy right now, and SO comfortable, lets your little calves breathe, HA. The mules, under $40 are really in right now, comfortable and I can wear them with almost anything. I like that they have a bit of a heel but I actually want to wear them :).

What I'm wearing in this post from ASOS

Printed Shirt

Frayed Angled Denim Jeans

Black Mule

Reflective Sunglasses

Rebecca Minkoff Navy Blue Tassel Bag


More Mule Inspo from ASOS:


 

More Fringe Inspo from ASOS:


More Blouse Inspo from ASOS:



Alright guys! Some life inspo and style inspo from ASOS. My favorite place for unique affordable threads that I want to wear, always!

Not too shabby for a Tuesday, eh?

Let me know when which things you feel good about following through on. Also, if you're an ASOS lover like myself :)

xo

Krista 

Talking about being HAPPY + my favorite faux leather jacket EVER

Why is it hard to talk about life when it's good?

Is that just me?

I was meeting with my friend recently and she mentioned (in a loving way), that I never seem to talk about what's going on in my life.

That when I'm with people I always shift the focus with questions about them and what they are doing.

That I don't often share anything about The Hundred Blog, Almost 30 Podcast, or my job (that I love). 

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I just never really talk about it. I don't know how to? What do you say when everything is just, really good?

Whenever I meet a stranger, and I'm introduced as a blogger, or podcaster...I don't have much to say beyond the basics. 

It pains me to think of being perceived as self-obsessed or self-involved. 

(I think sometimes think that as a blogger you are obsessed with yourself. That you LOVE taking photos of yourself and use the blog as a vehicle to share all of your glamour shots. HA. I would maybe say that taking photos is my least favorite part. I LOVE creating a vibe in an image and I love fashion, but getting ready and zooming in on 900 images of me every week, I'M GOOD).

It feels weird telling someone brand partnerships I have upcoming, or podcast numbers. Even with my job, I have nothing to say beyond, I love it, and it's good.  It's moving in the right direction, and I have wins everyday. 

But for some reason it's hard for me to share it! Why is that?

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Why is it so hard to talk about all of the good things in life, the successes and the wins?

It feels a bit like bragging, I guess? Or that you're making someone else feel bad because you're talking about the ways in which you shine.

There is a part of this where, yes, it's a good thing to be humble. I LOVE when I discover parts of others that are bragworthy but they haven't chosen to share. I always remembered that with my dad, I never figured out how traveled he was, and well read he was until I got older and I figured it out on my own, vs him telling me. He's been to over 90 countries in the world, but I never knew until I asked.

But where does humility become something where you're unable to share things you love with those you love?

I feel like lately, life has been going so well, that I don't have as much to say. Even on the blog!

Yes, I have my days, weeks, whatever, that SUCK. I got in a 3 car accident on the highway recently, which was pretty scary, and my hormone health hasn't been the best.  But, overall, I am happy, healthy, have enough food and money to support myself, and am doing things I love. I also am surrounded by people that I love. 

So, when people ask how I am, it's 'good!' and a switch to conversation about what's going  on with them, what's new and exciting. Honestly, I am more interested in what my friends and strangers are doing. I guess, when I'm in my own head, ALL DAY EVERYDAY, it seems less exciting to talk about the latest post or sponsor for Almost 30 Podcast.

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But when I think about it, having Almost 30 and the interviews I share on Hundred, are an extension of things that I am interested in, and believe in, AND involve others. The interviews on both Hundred and Almost 30 Podcast with AMAZING, qualified, interesting, smart people, I can share those.

But I'd love to work on finding a way to share and be open about positivity and good in my life. Acknowledging it, being grateful, and truthful about life, is essentially keeping it 100. Ya know?

I feel like there is so MUCH TO SAY when things are bad.

Your boss was mean to you, your friend betrayed you, everything went wrong, and there's LOT'S to discuss. Small talk, is often like that. It's musings and observations about things that suck.

The weather! Never good enough, am I right?

Even in California, talking about the weeks of rain, was a popular topic. But we NEEDED that rain, and it's a natural thing.

But, it was a conversation topic. Because it's negative.

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I'm just having a hard time, not feeling annoying, talking about all the good in my life.

Again, my life is by no means perfect, but I want to share more. Especially as I've deepened my gratitude practice (by writing down in a gratitude journal daily, and each morning saying thank you, the second I wake up) you notice more good. I swear.

How I plan to do better with sharing the wins:

  • Acknowledge it: This means that personally, when something good happens, when I'm feeling this good, taking a second to actually notice it. Take a breath, put my hand over your heart and think, wow, I am lucky that life is this good. 
  • Start small: Share things with those closest to me, and maybe even preface it with a joke. 'Life is good, I know it's annoying but I feel genuinely happy'. By the disarming, it gives me the space to actually be happy
  • Focus on the good, not the bad: When I find yourself in a conversation where I am focusing on the negative with someone, I am going to try to shift it, ever so slightly. Its' good for you, and it's good for them. 
  • Understand it's fleeting: The only constant is change, baby, which means that just because it's good now, doesn't mean it can't get better or sadly, worse, HA.

Any tips for me? How do you guys share in your success and the good in your life so that people can support you and be a part of it? 


What I'm wearing in this post:

DIE FOR THIS Floral Jacket by Black Denim NYC, fam. I mean how fucking amazing? The detail, the fit is everything and I get so many compliments on it. It's so good to mix the feminine with the masculine, and I am such a fan of faux leather baby.

High-Waisted Black Stretch Jeans from Nordstrom (these are like SPANX I SWEAR) 

Lace-Up Flats from Chinese Laundry

Free People Cream Blouse (on sale!) I wear this all the time. It's the perfect flattering basic.

Ray Ban Mirrored Sunglasses

Tarte BB Cream in Medium

Buxom Full on Liquid Lipstick


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Always thanks for being here, supporting Hundred Blog and being my friends!

Have the best Thursday, (almost there!) 

xoxo

Krista

How to be happy for no reason (REAL TALK)

'sup guys!

Love this one for a MONDAY. Truly a life changer.

First, how was your weekend? Did you do anything fun?

I worked basically all weekend, but that's good every once in a while! I also shot a LOT last week. With Danika my girl, for Ethona an Activewear line in Venice and then for a project I have coming up. It's interesting now with photos that I care less about what they look like - it's like more objective when I see pictures. Like, okay that angle is my hell, or like I should probably be more relaxed here, this looks good etc. Bloggers ya feel me?

So to the post! This is the realest and inspired by one of my favorite podcasts, Tara Brach, who does meditations and teachings that seriously calm and change my life. I would highly recommend the 10 minute meditation for beginners, which I linked in my meditation post.

This is my and almost everyone's life. 

Living, and thinking, I will be happy IF this happens to me.

'If' I get this job. 'If' I start dating this person. 'If' I get this apartment. 'If' I lose the weight. "If' I buy X, Y or Z.

Then. 

I will be happy. 

How often do we do that?

Personally, I find myself often saying that I will be happy once I: accomplish something with Hundred, make this amount of money, lose 10 pounds....

Once my friend Adam asked me how I was feeling, and I said 'I just want to lose these 7 pounds', and he said,

'You've always said I want to lose 7 pounds since I've known you. Maybe you should let it go.'

We've known each other for 6 years HA.

MIC DROP.

SO DAMN TRUE!

I'm just being honest.

It's the toxicity of thinking, if this happens, or this situation changes, then I will be happy. Until then I am living in limbo and out of this moment. 

I actually notice this a lot with my friends too. This moment, is not okay, but when something else happens, in two years, when I get married, when I have kids, when we have money, when I have this job... THEN I will be content.

But does that ever really happen? Think about when something in your life went REALLY your way. You actually did get that job or started to date that person...

You never stay as happy as you were when you first got it. Then, you find something else to chase after.

It's how humans work.

I know thats how I normally operate.

I thought this was cool:


Buddhism provides two definitions for happiness. One is defined in terms of our relation to an object, while the other is defined in terms of our relation with the state of mind of the feeling itself.

Please read below:

The first defines happiness as the experiencing of something in a satisfying manner, based on believing that it is of benefit to ourselves, whether or not it actually is. Unhappiness is the experiencing of something in an unsatisfying, tormenting way. We experience something neutrally when it is in neither a satisfying nor a tormenting way.

The second defines happiness as that feeling which, when it has ended, we wish to meet with it once more. Unhappiness as that feeling which, when it arises, we wish to be parted from it. While a neutral feeling is that feeling which, when it arises or ends, we have neither of the two wishes.
— www.studybuddhism.com

Basically the first is worldly happiness. Or happiness that comes with what we are experiencing through the senses. It's fleeting, it's when we experience life being a certain way.

It's happiness, with a cause.

The second, SUKHA is an unconditioned happiness that isn't dependent on anything. When people say they are CHOOSING to be happy, this is what they mean. You are happy for no reason. Nothing worldly or out of your control can keep you from that happiness. 

This is freedom.



Freedom is, reminding yourself that even without the things you crave, or are working towards - on this journey you DECIDE to happy.

Because nothing is guaranteed. No day, achievement, or 'it'. 

Things we want, we may or may not get, and if we weren't happy along the way, then whats the point?

So how am I applying this in my daily life? Every time I think about the things that I want or strive for, I remind myself that, now I am happy. On the journey to those things, or if those things never come to fruition, I am happy.

With or without 'it' I am filled with joy.

Deep right?

I would love to know what you think about this concept? Are there things for you that you feel like you'll be happy if you achieve or if you have? I feel like mines always been related to being a certain weight, or making a certain amount of money....what's yours?

Would love to read your thoughts!

Looking forward to chatting.

xoxo

Krista 

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