Living my best life in my FAVORITE look EVER

Not much more I can say than the fact that this outfit actually makes me happy. Like in my core and so deeply. I am not one that usually wants go to straight to buying something to make me happy, but I forgot what it feels like to actually wear clothes that make me happy. 

Most of what I have been wearing I honestly just throw on. I don't have much time to really plan outfits, get ready, or care about matching everything perfectly. I workout in the morning, go to work, work after work or do dinner, hang with J, so being picture perfect just isn't always in the cards for me as a big priority. 

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But when I was given the opportunity to work with Nicole Miller, I could not BELIEVE what's happening this season.

I mean, evil eyes? On this whole set? I sort of can't explain how me it is. Finding a look that makes me feel like my best self is LIFE.

I can't say more, but want to share the links as inspiration, and the notion that really being thoughtful about what you're wearing every once and a while can really give you that pep in your step and change how you bring your energy into a situation.

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What's your favorite go-to feel good look? 

Sending you love this week, hope you're surviving the mercury retrograde!

xoxo

Talking about being HAPPY + my favorite faux leather jacket EVER

Why is it hard to talk about life when it's good?

Is that just me?

I was meeting with my friend recently and she mentioned (in a loving way), that I never seem to talk about what's going on in my life.

That when I'm with people I always shift the focus with questions about them and what they are doing.

That I don't often share anything about The Hundred Blog, Almost 30 Podcast, or my job (that I love). 

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I just never really talk about it. I don't know how to? What do you say when everything is just, really good?

Whenever I meet a stranger, and I'm introduced as a blogger, or podcaster...I don't have much to say beyond the basics. 

It pains me to think of being perceived as self-obsessed or self-involved. 

(I think sometimes think that as a blogger you are obsessed with yourself. That you LOVE taking photos of yourself and use the blog as a vehicle to share all of your glamour shots. HA. I would maybe say that taking photos is my least favorite part. I LOVE creating a vibe in an image and I love fashion, but getting ready and zooming in on 900 images of me every week, I'M GOOD).

It feels weird telling someone brand partnerships I have upcoming, or podcast numbers. Even with my job, I have nothing to say beyond, I love it, and it's good.  It's moving in the right direction, and I have wins everyday. 

But for some reason it's hard for me to share it! Why is that?

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Why is it so hard to talk about all of the good things in life, the successes and the wins?

It feels a bit like bragging, I guess? Or that you're making someone else feel bad because you're talking about the ways in which you shine.

There is a part of this where, yes, it's a good thing to be humble. I LOVE when I discover parts of others that are bragworthy but they haven't chosen to share. I always remembered that with my dad, I never figured out how traveled he was, and well read he was until I got older and I figured it out on my own, vs him telling me. He's been to over 90 countries in the world, but I never knew until I asked.

But where does humility become something where you're unable to share things you love with those you love?

I feel like lately, life has been going so well, that I don't have as much to say. Even on the blog!

Yes, I have my days, weeks, whatever, that SUCK. I got in a 3 car accident on the highway recently, which was pretty scary, and my hormone health hasn't been the best.  But, overall, I am happy, healthy, have enough food and money to support myself, and am doing things I love. I also am surrounded by people that I love. 

So, when people ask how I am, it's 'good!' and a switch to conversation about what's going  on with them, what's new and exciting. Honestly, I am more interested in what my friends and strangers are doing. I guess, when I'm in my own head, ALL DAY EVERYDAY, it seems less exciting to talk about the latest post or sponsor for Almost 30 Podcast.

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But when I think about it, having Almost 30 and the interviews I share on Hundred, are an extension of things that I am interested in, and believe in, AND involve others. The interviews on both Hundred and Almost 30 Podcast with AMAZING, qualified, interesting, smart people, I can share those.

But I'd love to work on finding a way to share and be open about positivity and good in my life. Acknowledging it, being grateful, and truthful about life, is essentially keeping it 100. Ya know?

I feel like there is so MUCH TO SAY when things are bad.

Your boss was mean to you, your friend betrayed you, everything went wrong, and there's LOT'S to discuss. Small talk, is often like that. It's musings and observations about things that suck.

The weather! Never good enough, am I right?

Even in California, talking about the weeks of rain, was a popular topic. But we NEEDED that rain, and it's a natural thing.

But, it was a conversation topic. Because it's negative.

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I'm just having a hard time, not feeling annoying, talking about all the good in my life.

Again, my life is by no means perfect, but I want to share more. Especially as I've deepened my gratitude practice (by writing down in a gratitude journal daily, and each morning saying thank you, the second I wake up) you notice more good. I swear.

How I plan to do better with sharing the wins:

  • Acknowledge it: This means that personally, when something good happens, when I'm feeling this good, taking a second to actually notice it. Take a breath, put my hand over your heart and think, wow, I am lucky that life is this good. 
  • Start small: Share things with those closest to me, and maybe even preface it with a joke. 'Life is good, I know it's annoying but I feel genuinely happy'. By the disarming, it gives me the space to actually be happy
  • Focus on the good, not the bad: When I find yourself in a conversation where I am focusing on the negative with someone, I am going to try to shift it, ever so slightly. Its' good for you, and it's good for them. 
  • Understand it's fleeting: The only constant is change, baby, which means that just because it's good now, doesn't mean it can't get better or sadly, worse, HA.

Any tips for me? How do you guys share in your success and the good in your life so that people can support you and be a part of it? 


What I'm wearing in this post:

DIE FOR THIS Floral Jacket by Black Denim NYC, fam. I mean how fucking amazing? The detail, the fit is everything and I get so many compliments on it. It's so good to mix the feminine with the masculine, and I am such a fan of faux leather baby.

High-Waisted Black Stretch Jeans from Nordstrom (these are like SPANX I SWEAR) 

Lace-Up Flats from Chinese Laundry

Free People Cream Blouse (on sale!) I wear this all the time. It's the perfect flattering basic.

Ray Ban Mirrored Sunglasses

Tarte BB Cream in Medium

Buxom Full on Liquid Lipstick


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Always thanks for being here, supporting Hundred Blog and being my friends!

Have the best Thursday, (almost there!) 

xoxo

Krista

A little (EASY) way to make your life (and others lives) a LOT brighter

Oh guys! So glad you're here, and excited about this post.

I read something the other da that I just LOVEDDD an had to share with you.

(& if you'd like, links to this outfit below)

A post from Jedidiah Jenkins

Who, is truly one of my favorites when I found him from Rich Roll

It's a post about complimenting STRANGERS

Yes, strangers.

Jedidiah is a MUST FOLLOW on Instagram. He is a beautiful amazing wonderful wordsmith, and he writes these LONG captions, that are so so stunningly put, it takes my breath away. Each one feels like my thoughts, just so much more beautifully.

They are poignant, thoughtful and true.

This one was one of my recent favorites, with such a beautiful message, it struck me to share.

(I know it's long, but it's SO GOOD! Read read it!)


When I see something good in someone, I tell them. Straight away. Like a reflex. Even if I don’t know them at all. This can often be mistaken for flirting, but maybe it is. I love flirting. But I’ve seen the effects of this and I’ve felt its effects on me. I am always telling waitresses how beautiful their hair is or how charming they are or bartenders how masterful they are with the flip of a bottle.

I do this because I have found that a compliment from a stranger can reshape my whole day. If a random kid says he likes my jacket as I walk by, I feel like a fashion genius. If my buddy says it, I’m glad for sure, but not as charged and giddy.

There is something about speaking lovely words to people. Our nervous minds are always trying to see themselves, to fish out the mystery of our own identity. Words have all the power. Have you noticed when someone is saying ‘this was my first impression of you..’ you perk up with wild interest? We want to meet ourselves.

In a moment of anger, an emotional pronouncement over someone can poison them for years. ‘You are a disappointment.’ ‘You are lazy.’ Saying what someone ‘is’ is like witchcraft.

For this reason, I tell people what is lovely, so that it becomes more of them. If a talkative friend stops and listens to me, I pause and say ‘you’re such a good listener.’ She might lean back and put her hand on her chest and say ‘I am?’ And I’ll say ‘yes, thank you.’ I guarantee she’ll be a better listener from that day on.

Words have power, to bless or to curse. That’s why I love reading them, writing them in cafés, hearing and saying them. They shape the world. What is a thought but words or feelings looking for them?
— @jedidiahjenkins

I can recall times when a stranger has complimented me, or me them, and it breaks down a barrier between us, lets the other one in and feels so good.

It's not being vain or concentrated on looks all the time. It's not that we only like how someone wears a shirt or their clothes, but it's the act of being kind and NOTICING another, letting them put their wall down to be appreciated out of random that is just so lovely.

It's true, when you compliment someone you know, although you mean it, the nicety seems less exciting. It's the usual greeting from a girl. The ice breaker to meet new people, "I like your shirt". 

LOL. 

But for a stranger, it warms them and creates a reminder that we are all HERE and this slowly brings the human element back into it. 

In a life lived through our phones, in a digital world with our heads down when walking the streets. A compliment is a kind way of bringing both parties back to 'reality'. Breaking ice, and the barrier between strangers. 

So, this week, my thing, is to SAY what I am thinking when I notice something I like. To  put that positive energy out there, and when I'm thinking something lovely about someone, to just say it.

Make their day, just by expressing what I'm thinking.

Truly, a beautiful concept.

I love it. 

Thoughts? Feelings? A good add to the week, no?

I love ya, 

xoxox

Krista