What kind of person are you? The 4 tendencies (+ this easy dress from LMN&MNT)


Good thought provoking discussion and a dress that I wear out but also chilling at the house - like everyday. It's that soft.

I like to share stuff that's interesting AND share some clothing. I feel weird writing like, Hey! OMG busy week, work ya know!?! Blah blah here is this outfit!

Feels.....not me. But, anyway. To the post!

People love categorizing themselves.

Either with Myers Briggs, or as a astrological sign. People love finding ways to further understand themselves and their identity. It's related to the self. 

'Oh! Tell me more about me!'

Saying all of the above because I truly love that shit. ALL OF IT. Tell me who I am! 

So, I found such a good, new way to think about what kind of person you are and how you act based on that. 

For me, this really helped to understand my relationship with my decision making process and weirdly, eating. 

It's from Gretchen Rubin, who wrote, The Happiness Project. She also has a podcast that I listen to occasionally. It's good! There are definite episodes that I really like.

In a nutshell, under this scheme, people fall into one of four categories.

Upholder, Questioner, Rebel, Obliger.

This all depends on how you respond to external rules and internal rules.

So under this concept, you fall into one of these areas, and live your life accordingly.

You can take the quiz to see which one of these you are! 

Upholders wake up and think, “What’s on the schedule and the to-do list for today?” 

They’re very motivated by execution, getting things accomplished. They really don’t like making mistakes, getting blamed,  or failing to follow through (including doing so to themselves).

Questioners wake up and think, “What needs to get done today?” 

They’re very motivated by seeing good reasons for a particular course of action. They really don’t like spending time and effort on activities they don’t agree with.

Rebels wake up and think, “What do I want to do today?” 

They’re very motivated by a sense of freedom, of self-determination. (I used to think that Rebels were energizing by flouting rules, but I now I suspect that that’s a by-product of their desire to determine their own course of action. Though they do seem to enjoy flouting rules.) They really don’t like being told what to do.

Obligers wake up and think, “What must I do today?

They’re very motivated by accountability. They really don’t like being reprimanded or letting others down.

Understanding this is important, because if you want to motivate yourself (or someone else) to do something, it’s key to know how a person will consider and act upon that request or order!

SO WHAT AM I? Well, I am a damn rebel.

But I am also a questioner. Sounds like a super delightful combination, right? LOL. Stubborn and on my own shit, that's for sure.

It's true. I don't know what it is but my motivations are based on some ten year old me that wants to do my own thing, live my own life and is motivated by resisting expectations that people have. So for example, this one thing (this is really personal ha) but my wonderful mother had specific expectations on me related to my weight so sometimes those rear their head, and I rebel, aka eat my face off. Do things that I know don't serve me in that space. 

But that's a longer post/conversation.

What I'm wearing in this post:

Dress from LMN&MNT

This brand is super cute - it's festival style, easy breezy and I love how the fabric feels. Super affordable too! Mine is Ella Coachella, and I love how it fits, because it's a line so it goes out around the waist but hits the right spots around the top.


Lip Color

Midi Rings

Crystal Necklace via Shop Girl Party

Shop Girl Party is a super cute store in California that has unique curated goods you can find online. There customer service is amazing and I love their street style vibe. I also got my Quay Shades that I LOVE, there too! 

I've also written about crystals and crystal jewelry here and here.

I LOVED this, and it's just fun. Something light and easy! Which one are you? Do you know anyone that you work with that is a specific one? This may help to understand how they work!

Let me know, let's discuss! I've been thinking about which categories people I know fall into as well, and it's so fun, HA!

Chat soon! 



P.S. Link your posts this week so I can read them! I love catching up with ya.