A little bit of lace never hurt anybody (NYE LEWKS)


Very risqué today. Sort of kind of. I don’t know if I ever show too much? Maybe some people would think I do, or maybe I see myself everyday wearing the same sweater (which I shared here) leggings and booties. Not the IG me which shows the best of the best, of course.

(That is what IG is and I don’t fight it).

But on New Year’s Eve it’s so FUN to dress up. Seriously, I like to dress up like once a month and go ALL OUT. Makeup, hair, nails, everything. I’ve written and shared a few other New Year’s Eve Style posts, here and here, but pretty much I’m a big fan.

Plus having one day to work towards to get ready means that I’m caught up with my hair, and basically done with all my beauty errands. It takes time, people

I am pumped to share two looks with you. One for the club party type New Year’s eves, where you can get away with wearing something that’s more revealing, and one for the dinner with friends or your partner type New Year’s eves.

The first is a onesie from a small boutique off Abbot Kinney called Principessa. It’s basically lingerie, but the sleeves are so fun, and it’s actually really flattering. You can do tights if you want, like Beyonce nude fishnets if you’re afraid of showing off too much skin.

This dress is my favorite for a dinner. It’s different, fits SO NICELY and the lace is super different. I love that it hides the part of my arms I don’t always love, but shows off my neck and chest in a classy way.

Look 1:


Look 2:


What I'm wearing in this post:

Lace Black Romper Sold Out: Similar here

Floral Lace Dress from Vone Official

Mac Cosmetics Lipstick in Snob

My favorite accessories for NYE: 

My favorite dresses for NYE:

What are you guys doing this New Years? Thinking Justin and I may just chill? I feel like I neeeeeeeeeeed it right now. Send me your inspo!

All my love,


Goal Setting for 2016: Starting with FEELINGS

So confused that 2016 is already here. I feel like I was writing my 2015 goals in my bed (in NYC actually) just yesterday! I need to actually take another look at that and see how they've evolved.....

The holidays have been so busy, my family was here, and we basically ate lots of food, and were being may-jah tourists in L.A. - It was my first holiday on the West Coast! Super weird to not be where it's cold, where there is snow, and where almost every house has lights on it.

Let's see! A super quick recap of the trip:

  • Hiked Sandstone Peak in Malibu
  • Went to the Getty Museum (SO PACKED)
  • Ate at Leona, Cafe Gratitude (2x obvi, my poor dad kept ordering bacon thinking it was real bacon LOL p.s. GET THE PANCAKES) Herringbone, Joan's on Third, and Blue Daisy Cafe - all I recommend.
  • Went to Disneyland in Anaheim (the most LOL) being some of the only adults there - DGAF. But there I ate two buckets of caramel corn, just prepping basically for the bridesmaid dress I need to be in - HA.
  • Justin's parents met mine, and we all survived and thrived <3 hehe
  • My sister and I worked out a lot, at new studios called SpeedX and Burn 60 Studios in Brentwood - super sore, I'm in LOVE.
  • Only argued about where we were eating and what rides to ride at Disney - YAY

But, as I was saying about 2015 coming to an end, and GOALS. My favoriteeeeee.

If you know me, you know I've been writing down daily, weekly, monthly, yearly goals for the past three or four years, and can attribute a lot of my goal accomplishment to directly to goal setting. Without a vision, followed by the actual act of verbalizing what you want to feel, or want to do, or have, it's technically just a thought you have (of many!) through the day.

By writing things down I feel like I have control over a situation and I'm able to track what's happening. Here I can truly see that if I'm not hitting my goals, where am I spending my time? What is preventing me from accomplishing that.

So I have my goal sheets in my journal, for 3 months, 6 months and the year. Of what I want to accomplish, physically, mentally, spiritually, financially.... For this year, more importantly I'm adding - how I want to feel emotionally

All of my goals normally start with the end game, what do I want to achieve. i.e. save $20k or something like that. 

But why?

I recently got a book from one of my babes, which turns my goal setting strategy, completely upside down. 

I have been so guilty of the straight up goals; Travel to x country, lose x amount of weight (LOL)....

But if you really drill down, essentially, you're not chasing a goal itself. You're chasing a feeling.

What if, first, we got clear on how we actually wanted to feel in our life, and then we laid out our intentions? What if your most desired feelings consciously informed how you plan your day, your year, your career, your holidays — your life?

I know this sounds like a lot. A lot of writing and thinking, and 'wanting' but it's so incredibly fun and rewarding to truly imagine how amazing your life could be, and the opportunities you have to create in 2016. So this year I am doing my goals differently, by starting with the feeling, of how I want to feel, and then working backward. 

But first, to warm up.

Writing down the answers to phrases like: 

Right now I crave....

Other than time or money, I want more:

I need to give myself more permission to be:

This makes me feel alive, and I'd like to do more of it:

Once you feel in the zone (which for me is like post shower in a robe, with candles on, hot tea sippin' and relaxed) and ready to write your goals, use these steps.

2016 Goal Setting Steps:

(to your desired feeling)

  1. Sit in a quiet space, if you meditate do it prior so you're clear headed. This is key because your goals will be all crazy if you feel crazy, ha. 
  2. Write down three areas, such as what I have listed below to start. For mine, I add others like spirituality and essence - but the ones written below are solid to represent super important areas of your life that a lot of us have goals related to. 
    1. Lifestyle and Livelihood
    2. Body and Wellness
    3. Relationships and Society
  3. Then think, instead about what you want to accomplish, how do you want to FEEL in those areas. Your desired feelings are dictating what you will set out to achieve. There could be things you are chasing somewhat mindlessly out of social expectation or habit. Like, I always say I want to run a marathon, but when I really think about it, I just want to tell people I ran a marathon and carb-load, LOL. So I'm going to stop making that a goal. 
    1. Here you really need to sit and write whatever comes to mind. Words and then images that come through are telling you how you want to feel in the coming year.
    2. Some ideas include: vibrant, creative, joy, bliss, aligned, sensuous, infinite, electric, harmonious, wanderlust, beauty
  4. Within the realm of whatever area you are in (those three areas I listed above), then you write, what you want to do, experience, and have. This part is the actual, goal that follows your feelings. Here, be super detailed and descriptive, giving yourself lots of ways to achieve goals that make you feel the ways you want to feel. 

It may start out like this, I want to feel loving and connected to the relationships and society in my life. So in getting honest with myself, I could say, I do this through planning a trip with the people I love, and making sure that I am scheduling in catch-up conversations weekly with everyone in my family. You can then work down, make each as intricate and detailed as you'd like.

For this exercise, it's important to note that starting at the feeling you want to incite, and then saying what ACTIONS will help you to feel that way, makes this method super powerful. 

A bonus, and something I am now doing that I LOVE, is to go through my desires, of how I want to feel, then thinking through to see what in my life currently makes me feel that way. What now, do I already have, that I can appreciate and continue for the future. 

An example of this goal setting method for my 2016 goals:

Body and Wellness

How I want to feel: Light, vibrant, fluid and powerful

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I know it sounds weird when you really read it (like fluid is sort of gross). But it's all true and those words above all incite visions or ideas for me, of the ways I want to feel physically. I want to feel light, where I have the energy to always move. To feel vibrant, is to have that glow because I've been eaten so well that I look nourished. Feeling fluid, to me is being flexible and finding comfort when I move. Powerful, is that firmness and tone that you feel when you're continually working out and making progress. 

In order for me to feel that way, I need to experience, or have the following:

  • Running outside more often, 3x weekly. Writing it down, duh.
  • Cleansing monthly, ensuring I have juices daily and refining my vegan diet, to ensure that I am getting as many greens and fruits as possible (I have been a bit bad with my diet as of late, btw).
  • Going to yoga, at least 3x weekly. I still do Kundalini yoga quite a bit, but need to do a good vinyasa flow wayyyy more often to feel more fluid and light.
  • Making sure to up my weights at the gym, and go 'there' to make changes in my body. I have been maintaining a lot of my tone and muscle I mean like chick muscle) and really want to get more defined and lean, so need to challenge myself more to feel more powerful. I can do this by going to classes like SpeedX, Burn 60 Brentwood and basic dedicated gym time. Here, also tracking what I am doing is KEY, to notice trends and changes.
  • I'm gonna say it, I want to feel more light by being more light, ha. Could definitely cut back a  bit, and listen more to my body instead of mindless eating like I do working from home! 
  • Chewing less gum. I chew it a lot and it's sort of gnarly, ha

To continue, what am I doing right now that already makes me feel those things:

  • Yoga at The Yoga Collective, a super laid back studio with amazing instructors in Venice. I feel oh so light and fluid when I practice there.
  • Going to classes at CrossFit (LOL I KNOW) but it's actually more like a bootcamp class, I go about once a week. 
  • I feel lightest when I eat lots of greens, so when I do that, I'm doing alright!
  • Eating vegan makes me feel vibrant, I think my skin is a bit brighter ever since. 

Cool, right? It's an interesting, inside out way to look at goals. It helped me to really evaluate which goals mattered most and WHY I want to achieve that thing, or look that way, etc. 

An amazing resource and where I got a lot of inspiration is from the book, The Desire Map, by Danielle LaPorte. You can buy it here:

I have a way ways to go here with this, and I have only just started. It was super fun to do this exercise with a friend, like I did with Julie in Ojai a week ago. But after this week need to get a zen space to dig deep and intention set.

What are everyone's goals this year? Any New Years Resolutions that you have or things you want to do or how you want to feel? I would love to get inspired but what you have to say here, it's always so lovely to read!

Happy goal (and feeling) setting, babes.




Look like a dime on NYE (with ASOS)

& just like that, the holidays are in full swing.

Which means, the next holiday is almost upon us...New Years EVE.

Some people seem to really hate on New Years Eve. 

I mean, I get it. Like no one wants to pay $150 dollars for a ticket to a bar with a bunch of people standing around/trying to get like 5 drinks for themselves and their friends because it’s open bar and you want to 'get your moneys worth'. 

Plus you’re wearing a really nice dress at a place that normally serves $.49 wings on Thursdays.

I remember for about 3 years, doing the whole ‘buy a bar ticket’ thing, and it was fun, to be with people you love, but because I don’t drink (maybe once a month) it definitely doesn’t make sense to go, drink, and buy a ticket to lose my purse somewhere in a cab or like fight with my boyfriend drunk somewhere.

But anyway, NYE sucks if you do something you’re not excited about or something you assume will suck. Most of the time, if you think somethings going to suck, it probably will. 

I'm a huge fan of a small group NYE, a getaway (vacation) NYE or a very CHILL NYE. 

The past two years, I’ve done the last two. 

One in Las Vegas, with just J and I, and it was SO.FUN. I LOVE going to Vegas with him, because I feel protected from creeps and it’s fun to get super dressed up, have a nice dinner, maybe even gamble (I try) together. Just being peanuts everywhere. We were in and out  in two days, and stayed at the Trump, which I really like because it’s not an actual casino so you don’t feel so ‘Vegas-y’.

*don't mind the poor photo quality here y'all* 

(From left: Dress from Phillip LimForever 21 Fur Jacket, Marc Jacobs Stam bag, and on the right a BCBG dress, YSL Clutch and Forever 21 shoes)

The next year we did dinner at our favorite restaurant in NYC, Delicatessen. Again, v chill, v cold in NYC, and just felt right to be casual that year.

New Years Eve is special this year because I have a wedding for one of my best friends, in Cleveland (btw I love Cleveland) at the Ritz Carlton downtown. The rehearsal takes place on NYE and on New Years day is the actual wedding.

For the wedding, I’ll be wearing a glam bridesmaids dress, and for NYE I am still looking for another floor length, 'dressy' dress. 

But you guys, Aso's has THE DOPEST most gorgeous dresses, ever. You can find some classically stunning pieces on their website, with free shipping and free returns. I was blown away at how expensive these look, and most under $200 (at max). I love Aso's, so I was so glad to hear they wanted to do a bit with me on they're amazing dresses.

I’ve been doing some homework on some of the best NYE dresses this year, depending on your vibe

For a NYE Party (dressy vibe)

I love that right now people are bringing in jumpsuits to the mix, and I think that’s such an interesting way to differentiate yourself. 

Also, sequins. I mean when else can you wear sequins? 

Backless Sequin Jumpsuit from Asos

Ombre Sequin Jumpsuit from Asos

Lavish Alice Wrap Midi Dress from Asos

Bardot Silky Lace Midi Dress from Asos

Floral Beaded Dress from Asos


For an NYE dinner (more chill)

For a dinner, or low key night at a friends, just wear your lulu leggings and a sweatshirt, ha.

JK (the dream actually) 

I would do faux fur, gold choker, and big lashes. 

Low Back Black Dress from Asos

Virgo Lounge Midi Dress from Asos

Finders Keepers Dress in winter white from Asos

Plunge Gold Tunic from Asos

Club L Wrap Dress in Navy from Asos

For a glam NYE (upscale vibe)

Long dresses - all day. I want to take advantage of the opportunity to really dress up. I would definitely also consider Rent the Runway, to find something from Bagdley Mischka or Herve (obviously) but be careful because sometimes they can be poor quality (I’ve had this happen before).  

Love High Neck Long Dress from Asos

Embellished Maxi in Black from Asos

Sequin Silver Midi with a low back from Asos

Moda Tall Shimmer Maxi Dress from Asos

Frock and Frill Embellished Overlay Dress with Back Split

I am truly SO impressed with the selection of these, I bought two, ha. The embellished gray dress and the white HOT HOT dress that's sheer. Not sure where I'll wear the white one but HEY, whatever!

Feeling so grateful this week for lots of love from people *blushing emoji* thank you, thank you! Also let me know if you hear or see of something I should write about hehe.

So tired from travelin Dallas and San Fran, last week, then Ojai this weekend with my people. Will keep you posted. I love you!

Also P.S., what is your goto spot for dresses? Anything I've missed? Any stores that have really good ones for NYE? Would LOVE to know because you know best!



All opinions and dress choices are my own, but post done in partnership with Asos.