Why is it hard to talk about life when it's good?
Is that just me?
I was meeting with my friend recently and she mentioned (in a loving way), that I never seem to talk about what's going on in my life.
That when I'm with people I always shift the focus with questions about them and what they are doing.
I just never really talk about it. I don't know how to? What do you say when everything is just, really good?
Whenever I meet a stranger, and I'm introduced as a blogger, or podcaster...I don't have much to say beyond the basics.
It pains me to think of being perceived as self-obsessed or self-involved.
(I think sometimes think that as a blogger you are obsessed with yourself. That you LOVE taking photos of yourself and use the blog as a vehicle to share all of your glamour shots. HA. I would maybe say that taking photos is my least favorite part. I LOVE creating a vibe in an image and I love fashion, but getting ready and zooming in on 900 images of me every week, I'M GOOD).
It feels weird telling someone brand partnerships I have upcoming, or podcast numbers. Even with my job, I have nothing to say beyond, I love it, and it's good. It's moving in the right direction, and I have wins everyday.
But for some reason it's hard for me to share it! Why is that?
Why is it so hard to talk about all of the good things in life, the successes and the wins?
It feels a bit like bragging, I guess? Or that you're making someone else feel bad because you're talking about the ways in which you shine.
There is a part of this where, yes, it's a good thing to be humble. I LOVE when I discover parts of others that are bragworthy but they haven't chosen to share. I always remembered that with my dad, I never figured out how traveled he was, and well read he was until I got older and I figured it out on my own, vs him telling me. He's been to over 90 countries in the world, but I never knew until I asked.
But where does humility become something where you're unable to share things you love with those you love?
I feel like lately, life has been going so well, that I don't have as much to say. Even on the blog!
Yes, I have my days, weeks, whatever, that SUCK. I got in a 3 car accident on the highway recently, which was pretty scary, and my hormone health hasn't been the best. But, overall, I am happy, healthy, have enough food and money to support myself, and am doing things I love. I also am surrounded by people that I love.
So, when people ask how I am, it's 'good!' and a switch to conversation about what's going on with them, what's new and exciting. Honestly, I am more interested in what my friends and strangers are doing. I guess, when I'm in my own head, ALL DAY EVERYDAY, it seems less exciting to talk about the latest post or sponsor for Almost 30 Podcast.
But when I think about it, having Almost 30 and the interviews I share on Hundred, are an extension of things that I am interested in, and believe in, AND involve others. The interviews on both Hundred and Almost 30 Podcast with AMAZING, qualified, interesting, smart people, I can share those.
But I'd love to work on finding a way to share and be open about positivity and good in my life. Acknowledging it, being grateful, and truthful about life, is essentially keeping it 100. Ya know?
I feel like there is so MUCH TO SAY when things are bad.
Your boss was mean to you, your friend betrayed you, everything went wrong, and there's LOT'S to discuss. Small talk, is often like that. It's musings and observations about things that suck.
The weather! Never good enough, am I right?
Even in California, talking about the weeks of rain, was a popular topic. But we NEEDED that rain, and it's a natural thing.
But, it was a conversation topic. Because it's negative.
I'm just having a hard time, not feeling annoying, talking about all the good in my life.
Again, my life is by no means perfect, but I want to share more. Especially as I've deepened my gratitude practice (by writing down in a gratitude journal daily, and each morning saying thank you, the second I wake up) you notice more good. I swear.
How I plan to do better with sharing the wins:
- Acknowledge it: This means that personally, when something good happens, when I'm feeling this good, taking a second to actually notice it. Take a breath, put my hand over your heart and think, wow, I am lucky that life is this good.
- Start small: Share things with those closest to me, and maybe even preface it with a joke. 'Life is good, I know it's annoying but I feel genuinely happy'. By the disarming, it gives me the space to actually be happy
- Focus on the good, not the bad: When I find yourself in a conversation where I am focusing on the negative with someone, I am going to try to shift it, ever so slightly. Its' good for you, and it's good for them.
- Understand it's fleeting: The only constant is change, baby, which means that just because it's good now, doesn't mean it can't get better or sadly, worse, HA.
Any tips for me? How do you guys share in your success and the good in your life so that people can support you and be a part of it?
What I'm wearing in this post:
DIE FOR THIS Floral Jacket by Black Denim NYC, fam. I mean how fucking amazing? The detail, the fit is everything and I get so many compliments on it. It's so good to mix the feminine with the masculine, and I am such a fan of faux leather baby.
High-Waisted Black Stretch Jeans from Nordstrom (these are like SPANX I SWEAR)
Free People Cream Blouse (on sale!) I wear this all the time. It's the perfect flattering basic.
Always thanks for being here, supporting Hundred Blog and being my friends!
Have the best Thursday, (almost there!)