Interview with Jen Glantz, author of, 'Always a Bridesmaid (for Hire)'

Guys!

I've got a dope, interesting, loving female for you to fall in love with today. Jen Glantz, of 'Bridesmaid for Hire'.

What started as a craiglist ad Jen has turned into a full blown empire. She's a professional bridesmaid, author, blogger, entrepenuer and all around badass.

You may remeber her from being on the The Almost 30 Podcast a few weeks back, where she blew me away by her kindness, her warmth, and her hustle. This girl had a job she hated in NYC, got laid off, and made her dream life by working hard and following her gut.

I could go on FOREVER. 

But a good place to start would be here: 

Once you've listened, subsribed and rated The Almost 30 Podcast :) please enjoy my interview with the amazing Jen Glantz of Bridesmaid for Hire.


Can you please give readers a brief introduction to who you are - what you do :)

I'm Jen Glantz - hello, new friends!

I'm a dry-clean only kind of mess who pulls herself together behind a Forever21 dress and hair products from CVS.

But if you want me give you a verbal on my resume, I'd love to tell you that first I am a storyteller and then I am a professional bridesmaid. I'm the heart behind the blog, TheThingsILearnedFrom.com, the author of the book All My Friends are Engaged, and the proud founder of the business, Bridesmaid for Hire. 

I'm also a wanna-be contender for the world's fastest pizza eater and library book reader.

Can you tell us about the circumstances or situation that prompted bridesmaid for hire? I love this story!

All of my friends got engaged in our early twenties and I became the "always a bridesmaid" of the group.

One day, I had two friends ask me to be their bridesmaid. They weren't super close friends of mine, but before I could even bat my eyelashes or look away to roll my eyes, I said yes, of course. I came home, told my roommate, and she blurted out -

"Wow, Jen. You're becoming a professional bridesmaid."

At that moment, I was going broke from being a bridesmaid and I was going mad trying to piece together the reason why every single person I knew was smooching their prince charmings and the only thing I was smooching were American Express Bills.

This idea formed in my head that since I was "good" at being a bridesmaid and I had done it more times than I could count on one hand, maybe I could do it for strangers and...I don't know..get paid?

I did what any poetry major would probably do when they want to start a business, I turned to Craiglist. I wrote an ad offering my services to strangers as their bridesmaid for hire, shut down my computer screen, didn't tell anyone about this, and went to sleep. Two days later, the ad went viral, my inbox was filled with emails from brides-to-be, and my heart was beating toward a gigantic opportunity I created almost by pure accident.

Were there ever any times when you doubted yourself on your journey? 

Oh yes, of course. I'm human and I'm proud of that! But the doubt that hit me hard never stemmed from other people's remarks or hesitation to the business idea. A lot of people laughed in my face at first, and even now. I went on live TV plenty of times and had to answer to reporters who were calling me crazy and saying this business idea must be some kind of delayed April Fool's Joke. I always whole-heartedly believed in the idea and the need for a business like this to help brides during a very emotional and stressful time. A time when they may not have a strong or stable support system in their lives.

My doubt, I think, stemmed from the moments when I would look myself in the mirror and feel as though I wasn't smart enough, brave enough or even fierce enough to run a business on my own. I have moments like that all the time.

But do you want to know what I do in those moments? I slap myself across the face. Not literally. But with words. When I feel those things, I force myself to say them out loud and when I say them out loud, I usually whisper those things because I live in NYC and my walls are thin. I don't need the entire neighborhood of Murray Hill to know i'm having a "moment". Plus, those are rough and tough things for a person to say to themselves and usually they are said as words that mask what you're really feeling.

So then I scream, I scream so so so loudly that sometimes I hear the neighbors on the 26th floor of my building open and close the door to see if anything is okay, I scream, "Jen you are enough. You are everything you need to be. You are able to do and feel and fight more than you can even bare to imagine."

Maybe living in NYC for 5 years has made me think that talking to yourself out loud, on occasion, is an OK thing to do. But I'm telling you right now, I wouldn't be where I am or who I am without those motivational monologue pep-talks I give myself quite often.

What has been the reaction of your family and friends?

I'm grateful to have a mini, yet mighty, support system.

My family has always had my back and have always pinky-promised me to never give up on my wild dreams. My brother stepped in when I first started the business and helped me get to be something more than just an idea. My roommate, Kerri, and my two friends, who live in NYC, Jess and Sarah, have loved me and put up with me on my best days and on my nightmare days. I owe them the world - or at least access to a good therapist! 

Of course some people I know haven't been so kind to me about the business. I remember I was in Macys shopping for bridesmaid dresses for a friend's wedding with her other bridesmaids. One of the girl's said nasty things to me about my business and I literally dropped my arm-full of dresses and ran out of the store crying.

But I've learned that no matter who you are, what you are, or what you work day-in and day-out to become, there will be people who laugh in your face, smirk behind your back and try to tell you that you're not good enough.

And that's okay. You never ever have to listen to them.

What's hard about what you do?

It can be a challenge dealing with all different types of people.

Weddings, while they are rumored to be the best moment of your life, are often filled with drama and pressure and just headaches that Advil can't cure. I'm usually what brides use as their 5"7 version of Advil, so I deal with a lot of personalities and attitudes.

I fall in love, a little bit, with every single person I meet. I think that's why I love my job, even on days when most people would get agitated after dealing with three bridezillas in a row. I guess I believe people have mostly good in their hearts. I want to help them bring that out.

What's the best part of what you do?

Meeting people who hire me to change their life but without even realizing it - they change mine. I've had the chance to meet strangers from all over the world because of this job.

My life, my personality and my heart has evolved and changed in the past two years because of all of those people.

What's something you're really excited about right now?

Since I was a little babe, I dreamed of publishing a book. I published my first book as an e-book in 2013 - because close to 35 publishers told me I wasn't good enough or popular enough to write a book that would sell at a place like Barnes and Noble. I refused to give up and am excited to announce that my second book, Always a Bridesmaid (for Hire) comes out February 7th to bookstores everywhere - and Amazon. Simon and Schuster believed in me and they published it - after close to 20 other publishers pointed me to the exit door.

What do you think it is about you, that's made you so successful?

I think there's truly only one secret to success or to get what you want in this world. I'll tell you that secret but I beg that you believe me.


The secret is: don't you dare give up. Even when there's more reasons to give up than to go on - that just means you're almost there. Please hold on. Fight on. Figure out ways to fail over and over and over again. But then figure out ways to piece back together your game plan so it makes sense in ways you never imagined when you first started out.


So yes, that's my secret. I never gave up. If you viewed the list of people who told me I should - throughout my life - you'd be reading a list that's practically as long as the 7th Harry Potter Book.

What has been the most rewarding thing about being successful?

Accepting in my gut that anything is possible - as long as you're willing to work extremely and painfully hard.

Nothing long-lasting happens over night - not love, not forgiveness, not success.

What's your favorite topic to cover on your blog or when you write?

I love writing about the people who enter my world, even if they enter for only 20 minutes, because I met them on a park bench or at the table top of a bar in the east village, and they said something to me - a sentence or two - that forever changed my life.

I love telling those stories because they show the power strangers have over our lives.

What would you tell someone who is in their 20s, and feels like their career isn't fulfilling?

Here's something nobody else in your life will whisper in your ear: you were made to do more than one thing in your life.

When you're in school, you're hammered into picking one major and getting one degree so you can skip town and get one job. That's not what we were truly meant to do. We're humans and we're complex. We love more than one thing and we're not made to settle. Channel your instincts and find a hobby or a side hustle that makes your heart beat out of control - because it should. It always should.

What's one piece of advice you'd give YOUR 20 year old self?

Don't try to make everyone around you happy.

I take that back.

Focus on making yourself happy.

Our 20's seem to be the time when we're focusing on everyone else - because we have to.

We have to impress our boss so we can get paid and have a place to live. We have to impress our friends, because we start to realize how ruthlessly hard it is to make new ones.

We have to impress the person we're in a relationship with, because we far starting from scratch and downloading 8 dating apps.

What happens is that we lose ourselves or we don't ever get to know ourselves. My fear was that one day I'd wake up in my 30's with the wrong job, the wrong friends and the wrong guy.

I guess I learned if you don't want that to happen you have to really take inventory on yourself. Find out what you love - what you will never compromise on - and what you want to get out of this one chance you have at life. 

What's something related to your business that you didn't expect to happen, but that's been a challenge for you?

Balance.

There was a time when I was working full-time, building Bridesmaid for hire on the side, writing my second book, oh - and trying to date! For a while, I distanced myself from a social life just so I could work, work, work.

I think finding balance is a terribly hard thing to do. I think sometimes you need to give in to the extremes (too much work...too many nights spent on the couch binge watching a show with your roommate or spending the weekend laptop-free, biking Brooklyn with your boyfriend) to get you to realize that you can have both, you can have it all, if you just understand and embrace balance.

Do you have anyone on your team working with you?

Right now, I'm a one-woman show! I have a couple of gals that sometimes will work weddings with me and for me - but i'm managing this business all by myself.

What's been a project or piece that you've worked on that really stuck with you?

I'd say writing my second book was one of the most challenging projects i've ever done. I had two months to write the entire book and at the same time, I was laid-off from my full-time job.

My emotions were all over the place and the idea of having to write close to 100,000 words in 60 days left me sleepless. I poured everything I had into writing that book and now when I read over the manuscript, I can't help but fall on the floor and flood myself with tears. I'm exposing a huge part of my heart to the world and while that's so scary it's also extremely therapeutic. 

You talk a lot about dating and being single in your posts. But now you're in a happy relationship (yay!) how does that affect what your work?

I've always had the goal of writing about what was currently going on in my life.

When I started my blog, 5 years ago, I wrote mainly about the struggle and the blahh of living at home in my parent's house while trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life and snag a job that paid more than $8 an hour. Then I wrote about my perpetual singledom and being a constant bridesmaid. So I want that trend to continue. If I get married, have kids, move to the moon - I want to expose stories about what that's all really like in hopes that my readers can relate, laugh and realize that live is sometimes disgustingly beautiful.

What scares you?

Time. I'm scared of running out of time. That may be the best and the worst thing to be scared of. Best because it makes me get out of bed in the morning faster. Bad because sometimes I exhaust myself.

What's one of your life goals?

To become a motivational speaker for young women. That's my forever career goal. I just want to change people's lives using the hurt, mistakes and the love that i've hugged onto in my lifetime so far. 

What's next for you?

I wish I knew where or who i'll be in a year from now or even in a week from now. Life has this brilliantly delicate way of keeping us on our tipy toes, showing us that we can stand on them longer than we think, even when the pain sinks in and the temptation to fall over just seems so contently easy. I'm on my tipey toes - eager to find out what's truly next. 



Where can people connect with you?

Twitter + Instagram + Snapchat land: @jenglantz

Blog: thethingsilearnedfrom.com

Bridesmaid: bridesmaidforhire.com

Blog 

All My Friends are Engaged Book

Always a Bridesmaid (For Hire)

Bridesmaid for Hire


There are some SERIOUS nuggets in there, right? If you haven't already, definitely listen to the Podcast Episode, it's SO GOOD I was in tears at points.

Let me know what you think. I reasonated so much with the parts of doing your own thing, finding your own way and sticking true to who you are.

LOVED THIS.

So glad to introduce you to Jen :) Keep me posted on what resonates with YOU.

xo,

Krista

How to be an amazing bridesmaid (or wedding guest!) + this dress from Free People

Oh hi friend!

How are you? How was the weekend?

I was in DENVER this past weekend for my bestie's bachelorette, and am feeling oh so TIRED. But loved it, we did a lot of the things listed in my Denver guide, and also had a TAROT READER come join. It was really fun.

But to you. How's life? Is it Fall where you are? California is hot as F right now. 

With my friends wedding upcoming, I started to think about weddings and how I can be the best wedding guest or bridesmaid possible. 

I’ve come to find that making the effort for these weddings, really sets my friendship with that person apart from someone that may not show up, or is a bit aloof or unsupportive.

Justin and I made the effort to see my amazing friend Alexandra and her fiancee wed in Atlanta (I wouldn’t have missed it for the world TBH) and I feel like it really solidifies my place in her and her husbands life, as forever friends.

No better feeling really!

I think that I really could use more advice here from you too.

For the bridesmaid babes, what do you do to make the bride feel special? How do you try to make their lives easier during a crazy chaotic time? 

Or how do you just be a good-ass wedding guest to all the weddings we have these next few years!

 Oh and this dress! This I wore to a wedding in Chicago from my lovely friends at Free People.

This dress is so appropriate for a wedding I LOVE the halter top on the dress. It shows enough skin, (but not too much) and I felt comfortable all night.

Plus the quality is out of this world. It feels expensive, a bit heavy and really nice to wear. I am so thankful I have this so I can wear it, pretty much forever.

Highly recommend, friends! I'll have it forever I'm sure! :)

But back to being a good wedding guest... I asked my lovely friend Jen Glantz of 'Bridesmaid for Hire' what her tips would be on being a good wedding guest.

If you haven't met her, check out The Almost 30 Podcast episode where we interview her - she's AMAZING and basically attends weddings as a bridesmaid for a living. In addition to that, she's an author, has an amazing blog and just all around badass lady.

You can also get her amazing book, Always a Bridesmaid (for Hire) here! I just picked mine up :)

She drops knowledge on my first bullets below! 


How to be an amazing wedding guest:

  • Show up on time & show up sober. Get through the ceremony and then you can reward yourself with hugging hello the open bar.
  • Dance when the party needs a pick-me-up. Even if your seat at the reception table is super comfy, get your butt on the dance floor to help get the party started and keep it going. 
  • Leave the drama for your momma - or just at the door. Try not to start any fights or bring in any stress on the wedding day with personal problems. Everyone can feel your energy when you walk in a room and that energy is contagious. Bring your best self to a wedding.
  • My friend Cassidy talked about making things personal for the wedding gift, or going off the registry. Which I think are both really good points. The wedding party really takes time to fill out the registry, so what's on there, they actually want. Or if you know them well, get them something you KNOW they'd like. 
  • Also to not overwhelm the bride, try texting other people if you need to find the location for the church on the big day. If you text the bride and the groom it may get overwhelming, so try to be mindful and keep the random text for directions to a minimum.

How to be an amazing bridesmaid:

  • DON'T make this about you. If you're not happy with the dress, your hair or makeup - don't make it a point to go wild about it. Suck it up and remember, in 8-hours you can change into PJs and wash the makeup off!
  • Don't ghost on the bride. Call and text every so often to let her know you're there if you need her.
  • I make it a point to check in often with my friends that are brides. Asking how they are, how everything is going is really important. It's such a stressful time, and there's so much going on, they need to know who is there and be reminded why they are doing it in the first place!
  • I also love to get my bride babes this necklace from Etsy. It's simple, and I engrave either her new initials or the date of their wedding in there. 
  • Keep it calm, and be understanding. Period.


Shop the post:

Free People Athea Drape Maxi in Green

They have other colors too which are GORGEOUS. 

Stuart Weitzman 'Nudist' Sandal

These are so comfortable, let me tell ya!


Other great options:


What do you think?

For the brides, what could your guests do for you? What could your bridesmaids do to help? Would LOVE your advice and stories too! I'm sure you have so many!

Loving you!

xo
Krista

Thanks for Free People for your partnership on this post! 

 

Wedding Makeup like a PRO and products you NEED to get (but probably don't have!)

Oh hello!

Y'all know I am unafraid of a full face of makeup. I can do eyes, lips, brows, contour.

ALL of the makeup, thank you!

Because honestly, I wear makeup maybe once or twice a week, so when I do, I go all in mask mode. I love to take my time, try new products, try new techniques and being unafraid allows me to diversify my look.

For the wedding I was at last weekend, my favorite girl Laura Moriarty was there and I HAD to have her do my makeup.

She worked in New York City, with models and celebrities and is a true genius with her tools. She also just "gets it" and when I said, "do your thing" when we talked about the look I was going for, I knew it would be perfect. 

I mean, on the real, most of the time when I get my makeup done I leave and go change it, redo it or add more. It's hard to understand the look you want or are comfortable with.

I'm rambling. But, I wanted to share how to achieve this look and more importantly the PRODUCTS that are changing my life and giving me soft, glow-y, radiant skin. Every one of these I bought because they are quality, and seriously make you look amazing.

(Some of Laura's clients, below!)

So, I had Laura write it ALL out for you guys so you can get that look, and get all these seriously incredible products.

Enjoy this detail on how to achieve a radiant face via makeup artist Laura Moriarty!


How to achieve the perfect glowing, hydrated summer skin...

FACE

Primer: Laura Mercier Hydrating Skin Primer then go over with Becca Shimmering Skin Perfecter in Opal overtop primer to achieve a shimmering, glowing base.

Foundation: I used Giorgio Armani Luminous Silk Foundation in 4.5 and mixed it with Nars All Day Luminous Foundation in shade, Vallauris for a dewey yet fuller-coverage look, and blended with dampened Beauty Blender in a light, dabbing motion.

Contour: Contoured hollows of cheeks, temples, and jawline with #4 (darkest shade) in Cover FX creme Contour Kit, shades G10 to G40 = G Light-Mediumand blended inwards with Beauty Blender.

Highlight: Highlighted bridge of the nose and under the eyes with Maybelline Master Conceal in Light concealer, and blended outwards with Beauty Blender.

Bronzer: Bronzed hollows of cheek and apples of cheek with Buxom Bronzer in Tahitismells as good as it looks.

Strobe: Strobed bridge of nose, cheek bones, and brow bones with Becca Shimmering Skin Perfecter in Opal using your fingers

Then go over strobed areas with Laura Mericer Face Illuminator in Indiscretion with a fan brush to maximize glowing look.

Blush: Applied Stila, Field of Florals Convertible Dual Lip & Cheek Palette to apples of cheek with fingers in colors Lillium mixed with Gerbera. 

(Using a creme based blush enhances the dewey-skin look!)


EYES

Eyes: On lids, I used Urban Decay Eye-Shadow in Chopper and Make Up Forever Eye-Shadow in Copper Red in crease.

Then, I took Bobbi Brown Long Wear Cream Shadow Stick in color Golden Pink and highlighted inner corners of eye, under the brow, and on cupid's bow (top of the lip) for extra highlight.

Lastly, lined top lash line with Stila Smudge Stick Waterproof Eye-liner in Graphite.

Lashes: Coated lashes with Eye Booster Instant Doll Lash Extension kit by Physicians Formula *MUST try mascara, creates long, full lashes.


LIPS

Lips: Lined and filled lips with Buxom Full-On Lipstick in Dolly.

Then went over with Make Up For Ever Artist Pexi-Gloss in color, 202.

These are my obsession! You can wear them everyday, to work, whatever and it's just enough color to make you look alive and feminine, but not too much. Plus my lips get SUPER soft.


SHOP IT ALL HERE


OTHER DETAILS

This Forever 21 Striped Shirt is my JAM! I wear it as a dress and then with black jeans for a edgy look.

I also noticed that Fashion Lush was rocking it as well! 

On my hair, I used my favorite Oribe Gold Lust Shampoo, and Bumble and Bumble Thickening Spray and Oribe Beach WavesShine Spray.


Questions? Let Laura or I know! You can connect with her via her website, or just ask us here and we'll answer!

If I could get ANY of these products, I would DEFINITELY get the Mascara, and the Buxom Lipstick. Key for everyday - and super affordable.

Yas queens, yas.

Love you!

xo

Krista